Fathers partner in house.

[Snitterton]

My mother passed away in 2006 and I inherited her part of the house.
My husband passed away in 2007 and I was retired in London the same year.
My father and myself decided my house would be sold and I would live with him as a joint owner. He could not pay to keep the house on his own.
Since moving to my parents house I have paid half of the general expenses and in addition I paid £85,000 for repairs, improvements etc which Dad wanted, paid for Dads private medical insurance and paid to run the car as Dad no longer drives.
Dad has suddenly got a partner who wants me to leave and get a flat. She also wants me to pay for private medical insurance for her and she wants the 3 year old kitchen replacing.
Really I think it is about time she leaves as I am an owner of the house.
I am wandereing if anybody has any sugestions on a solution without offending Dad too much,

[bednobs]

you should start charging her rent. I believe your dad is entitled to ask who he wants to live there.

Are you registered under another name? I swear i saw this question about 2 weeks ago

[bednobs]

http://www.theanswerb.../Question1080998.html
this was the q but i see it's a different scenario

[joko]

im amazed... why on earth would you pay for private medical insurance for her? i cannot undertsand how she has come to the conclusion that that is an acceptable or even logical thing to suggest...!
and to start demanding refurbishments!

i think you need to take her aside and tell her straight it is YOUR house, and under no circumstances will it ever be hers, so to get that idea out of her head.
and also state that if it ever did, you would take your entire investment out of it, which she would have to pay.

i would also suggest to your dad that the £85000 you put into the property now actually makes you majority shareholder in whatever percentage that amount is of the whole property, and would he mind agreeing to that on the deeds ... say it is just to keep your own books and accounts in order etc, and dont let her know what you are doing...

[ubasses]

She sounds like a golddigger. Tell her quite clearly that you own 50% of the property and if she requires you to move out that will have to be purchased from you plus 50% of the repair costs you have invested in the property. Also that you have no intention or obligation to pay for medical insurance and no intention of replacing a perfectly new and serviceable kitchen. If she does not like that you suggest that she vacates the premises. You don't say if your Dad is aware of her demands to you, if not I think you must tell him so he is aware of what type of person she is.

[EDDIE51]

First thing to do here is to find out what your Dad thinks of this. I suspect he does not know. This woman IS a golddigger no question about it, I think she found out about your Dads situation and 'homed in' on him with a view to a free house.
As others have said you have to make her aware of the actual situation and that you own more of the house than your Dad does.
What ages are your Dad and the new partner , by the way ? , not just curiosity it effects the possible finacial future for Dad and you.

[EDDIE51]

I will not be suprised if the new partner disappears as fast as she arrived once she finds there is no way she is going to get a share of the house.

[AMYSULLIVAN]

I can only agree with what people have said in this thread.
The only addition I can make is do NOT leave the house.
If your father has to go into care the house will not count as being available to pay nursing home fees as you are a joint owner occupier under your present circumstances ( see Age Concern Factsheet 38).
If you left you would probably only be allowed half of the sale proceeds and your £85,000 may not be taken into account.

[Snitterton]

I think my father's partner suddenly realised she would not get the house.
I had paid for them to go to the theatre yesterday as it was Dad's birthday and she did not arrive at the house.
I took Dad to her house but she just said there was no point seeing Dad any more and closed the door.
Dad had allowed time for a meal on the way but we finished up having fish and chips in a cafe due to lack of time and I went with Dad to the theatre.
We arrived at the theatre 10 minutes before the start.
I think Dad suddenly realised the situation regarding the house etc. He was slightly upset for a very short time but he seemed reasonably happy after as she took the decision to go.
I am going to try and book Dad and myself in for a meal somewhere tonight which may not be easy as it is nearly Christmas but that is a very small problem.
Dad did say he enjoyed the fish and chips.