Am I anally retentive?

[nellypope]

I have a two year old, who is an absolute nightmare when she gets a cold! I will be honest, I don't have issues with her catching cOlds, but I am 8 months pregnant and value my sleep! my nephew is constantly ill always coughing and spluttering, my daughter was "exposed" to him and his cold last September and I ended up with 3 weeks of broken sleep sitting up with my poorly daughter! Now my family want to meet up again before Christmas and they tell me that their poor lad is poorly again! . . . I'm dreading Christmas ;-)

[starone]

Too risky. Find some excuse not to go. If you are eight months pregnant that should be excuse enough. You can be feeling poorly yourself, you can't get about very well, anything.

[sherrardk]

May as well get used to the broken sleep now (because you aren't going to get any proper sleep for the next couple of months anyway)! Yours, sherrardk, mother of five and ELEVEN years of broken sleep, x

Seriously, it's just the way things go. You are tired, the weather is pants, your little one is poorly and it's Christmas. Just going to have to grit your teeth and get on with (and try and cat nap when you can). Good luck with it all.

[ummmm]

At 8 months pregnant, no, not anally retentive.

[nellypope]

To be honest my daughters immune system could probably do with the workout, but when I was 8 months pregnant before I caught a cold, and was admitted to hospital, (major overkill) I didn't actually feel that bad but the cold virus forced my heart rate and my baby's heart rate through the roof! Was made to endure poor hospital food for 10 days strapped to monitors whilst being held in isolation! Really don't want that again! My husband will lose the plot if he has to look after my toddler on his own! I just can't think of another poor excuse to get out of it! Apparently he IS VERY poorly too!

[woofgang]

Tell them you don't want to end up in hospital agin, that's not an excuse it's a blooming good reason!

[nellypope]

Would rather be anally retentive with a good nights sleep ;-)

[sherrardk]

If you want to get out of it just say you are not up to it, don't bother lying (not good for you or the baby). Say you will all get together when your baby is here. I used to do stuff just to keep others happy but it is not worth it if it makes ou miserable (or possibly unwell). Do what you want you've got a lot on your plate at the moment.

[jno]

you're eight months' pregnant, you don't even need an excuse!

[firewatch]

hun tell them you dont want to travel so late on no matter the distance its not worth it honey sleep is what you need now not broken nights sleepx

[askyourgran]

After what you went through the last time I would definately avoid them, for you and your family's sake. No point in exposing yourselves to illness now.

[welshlibranr]

just say ' no thank you' you have to take care of you and yours!.........

[Kassee]

I think its a little selfish that they want to meet up with you, when their child is poorly (surely he should be kept at home till he is better - not spreading his germs around the family) especially when you are heavily pregnant.

[Ann]

Had to look up what your question title meant!

[Nosha123]

I would tell them about your last hospital trip after your cold and say thats the reason why.. dont feel guilty about it though! Surely you are needed at home - and healthy!

[notasyoungasiwas]

Eight months pregnant - no contest. Your health is important.

[lcg]

you don't have to justify yourself to anyone. last time i checked...you're an adult! if your siblings/family get upset...stuff them. i don't talk to any of mine anymore and my life is now very peaceful...and i don't have to put up with any crap over christmas, either x

[daffy654]

I have had to tell my two daughters not to bring their toddlers round if any of them have coughs and colds. I have emphysema and the last time I caught a cold off one of them I only avoided hospital because I refused point blank to go.

I don't think you are anally retentive at all.