How to deal with a 3 year old?

[star57]

That's always telling me to go away she hates me or coming up and hitting me and sticking her tongue out at me,when i tell her to stop that it's not nice my mom or one of my other nieces yells at me and tells me i need to grow up,So am i doing something wrong how do i deal with this when she does this stuff?

[ummmm]

Who's the Mother?

[nungate]

Rule no 1. You are the Mum. You are in charge. Tell her her behaviour is not acceptable and that she will be punished if she misbehaves. No treats.
No sweets. Sent to bed early. Try a reward chart, she gets a star for good behaviour, and when she has maybe six or seven she gets a small reward. Though I hate to say it use the "naughty step" or make her stand in the corner face to the wall for a few minutes. Reinforce the fact that her behaviour is unacceptable and there will be consequences for bad manners, rudeness etc.
Rule no 2. You are the Mum. You are in charge.
For all other problems. Refer to Rules 1 and 2

[star57]

@ummmm it's my sister daughter

[missprim]

Are you talking about a niece or your daughter?

[FredPuli43]

How old are you? It would help to know, but my gut reaction is 'listen to your mother' She has had more experience of dealing with annoying children than you have. The little devil of 3 is getting her reward from your reaction. The more you react, the more she enjoys annoying you and the more she'll do it. So try to ignore her, however annoying she gets. Eventually, she'll lose interest. She's only three , simple things entertain her, and she just loves getting attention (which you are giving her!)

[star57]

my niece

[missprim]

Nungate, back to the drawing board it's her niece not her daughter :-)

[ummmm]

Then tell her calmly that you will not talk to her again until she can be nice. Stick to it...completely blank her bad behaviour, don't even look at her.

You're on a losing battle if the Mum won't back you....but at least the child will know she'll be ignored. Kids hate being ignored.

[missprim]

Personally I'd ignore her as much as possible, it's down to your sister to deal with this behaviour.

[star57]

Thanks I'll ignore her when she does this and leave to her mom to deal with

[B00]

At 3 she knows that sticking her tongue out and hitting you (or anyone come to that) is wrong.

I'd be concerned that her mum seems to think this is acceptable behaviour of their child!

[Kassee]

how old are the other nieces that are yelling at you and telling you you need to grow up. This all sounds pretty awful - I dont think I would want to visit too often.

No you're doing nothing wrong - but it sounds as though your mom and nieces dont know how to behave either.

If a child is allowed to get away with this sort of behaviour to an adult, goodness knows what sort of child she will turn out to be, rude and bad mannered and violent too.

[welshlibranr]

my youngest grandson can be rather challenging and demanding, his manner is sometimes very menacing really, he's 5, when he displays this type of behaviour I totally ignore him until he speaks to me in a civil manner, I won't even look at him!.....it works!......after a few minutes he's a pussycat!.....this little girl needs to learn about boundaries!........

[DaisyNonna]

Walk away, ignore her. No comment, no eye contact.

[boxtops]

Just ignore her, star. Unfortunately from what you've said before on earlier threads, other people in your family behave like this too. Just ignore it - if she doesn't get any reaction from you, she might stop doing it.

[Lindylou]

I suspect the only way to deal with this (and the other members of your family) is to avoid their company as much as possible. You sound like a nice, sensible, responsible person and you certainly don't need to put up with this type of behaviour. No matter how young/old the person behaving badly is. Good luck!