How Can I Get My Friend To Forgive Me?

[ellenperenge]

My one friend has a really huge gut but a skinny body. I've been making fun of her for it for a while. She constantly works out, and she gets skinnier everywhere except her gut. Her gut is so big she looks six months pregnant. She went to the doctor recently because for the past couple of months she has been in intense pain in her abdomen, her side, and down her right leg and her lower back. It turns out that the reason she has a huge gut is because she has a six pound ovarian cyst. She is actually a lot smaller than she thought, but the cyst has been growing for a couple years now. She has been mad at me for a couple of weeks because I called her a big fat pathetic fatty. I only know all of this because one of our mutual friends told me what is going on. I feel bad now that I know she isn't fat. I've already apologized once but she told me to **** off and she doesn't want my sympathy. How do I get her to forgive me?

[ellenperenge]

Have you not read what I wrote? If you do not think she should forgive me, and you have no advice to offer, then go away. I want advice and nothing else. If she doesn't forgive, then I will move on. I already said, I did not ask this question for people to tell me their opinion on me. And how else do I ask how to get someone to forgive me. I am not saying I am trying to force her to forgive me. I just want to TRY and see if she will forgive me. If not, then I move on but at least I tried. Obviously I can't MAKE anyone forgive me or MAKE anyone do anything. People have free will, but I can at least try.

Again, would it be better if I didn't apologize for it or wish her luck? I've already ordered her favourite flowers to be delivered to her house tomorrow morning. And I've also sent the email. If she doesn't want them, if she never responds this to email and ignores the flowers then I will move on with my life, and learn from this.

But apparently according to strangers on the internet that can't happen, because apparently they know me better than me. You know every single thing from one question. You suddenly know if I do feel bad or not.

[sara3]

is this about your feelings, or your friend's?

she's not forgiven you, move on.

[ellenperenge]

"When all you wanted to hear was that you were only having a bit of a laugh with your friend who is now just being plain mean by not forgiving you after you had gone to all the trouble of apologising to her."

No. All I wanted was some tips on what I should do. I wanted absolutely nothing else except tips. I didn't want to hear "All you wanted was a laugh." or anything. Just tips on what to do to make it up to her. I do not think she is being mean at all by not forgiving me. I understand it.

Honestly, people on here said I made this post on here as a 'wind up' but you're winding me up by being rude to me.

I didn't want peoples opinions on me. On her. I just want tips. That's all. Nothing but tips on what to do. I've sent her an email and flowers like some people suggested, and if nothing comes out of this then I will move on with my life.

[sara3]

halfway down is this, "

Ellen Perenge 1 week ago
I just found out yesterday that I have a huge one. They said it probably weighs 6 pounds. They thought I was pregnant, but I've been in such horrible pain. I'm 26 years old, and they think I will lose one of my ovaries from it."

[sara3]

ick.. didn't expect the link to appear :o/

[sherrardk]

If you need tips on how to apologise then your people skills must be pretty poor. Saying 'I'm sorry' is hardly rocket science (doesn't matter if it is face-to-face, by letter or email). You appear to be wanting people to say that what you did was ok and to make you feel better. If your 'friend' does forgive you then deserve each other.

[grasscarp]

Ellen you have had some constructive criticism, and you have acted on that and tried to make amends. People have posted things you don't like but there are many opinions and you have to let people have their say too. You are human, have done wrong and want to make amends. Best of luck and hope you are not put off from posting in the future or joining in on other threads.

[sara3]

Ellen Perenge commented 16 hours ago

Wow, I feel bad for you. I've got a six pound cyst that makes me look pregnant, but yours looks terrible. I'm having mine removed in three weeks. Everyone thought I was pregnant and I thought I just had a fat belly. I have a tiny frame, skinny arms and legs so I was getting angry that I had a gut. I'm 126 but have a huge stomach.

[Sharingan]

I see what you are looking at Sara3.
Ellenperenge- which story is the true one if either of them are?

[boxtops]

sara, are you saying that ellen is claiming on another site that she's got the ovarian cyst, not her mate?

[sara3]

no idea Boxy. I can't even be arsed to read her rambling "me me me" posts ;o)

[sara3]

http://www.youtube.com/user/Ellie60728

[grasscarp]

What The Funicular

[boxtops]

I see what you mean - ellen has posted claiming it's her with the cyst. Perhaps it's her friend who's being horrible to her, after all.

Trip trap trip trap...

[Sharingan]

Perhaps she has Munchausen's syndrome by internet.

[2sp_]

Not saying that this person is the same one as the YouTube profile, but read some of the other comments further down the link that Sara provided.

Apparently one of the YouTube Ellen's friends is the "ugliest woman alive" and she "loves making fun of her for being so hideous".

Nice.

[Purple_Popple]

1. Ellen Perenge replied to a comment from Brady Sundheim 4 months ago
yes why wouldn't I be? This was a tragedy and I feel bad for anyone who died unless they had an ugly face.
2. Ellen Perenge commented 4 months ago
whenever my friend walks by my house I turn up this song loud. She is the ugliest woman alive. I love making fun of her for being so hideous. I gave her a ride to Toronto (it's about 2 hours where we live) and I had this song play every two songs. She's such a loser.
3. Ellen Perenge commented 4 months ago
Depends on the problem. If you're ugly, that is a permanent problem, and it can't be fixed. That's why I want to kill myself. The only reason i haven't yet is for my moms sake.

[Purple_Popple]

Yup 2sp VERY worrying !

[boxtops]

Oh dear, I feel sorry for ellen, she seems to have an identity problem....

[joko]

are you getting upset at being attacked, on here?
are you getting frustrated at being called names, on here?
do you feel hurt because people are judging you?

horrible isn't it? ... well now you know how your mate must have felt.

you are not real friends so just apologise and move on - i doubt you will be mates ever again... you don't sound like a very good friend, or a very nice person, so just let it go.