Wedding Speech

[Mike25]

Do you think it is ok to mention in a speech people that couldn't make it to the wedding due to death as a way of remembering them as a mark of respect or should the speech be kept happy?

[Zacs-Master]

I are you the groom or the best man, or the father of the bride?

[pixie373]

If it's obvious to a lot of people there, it would be good to mention it. But not at the start or finish of the speech. End on a high.

[elliemay1]

You should mention them if it feels right for you.

[VHG]

Talk about "absent friends" but maybe don't go into details.

I don't think a wedding speech needs to be all "happy".

[Mike25]

I am the groom, My uncle died of cancer 2 months ago.

[pixie373]

Then if you'd like to mention him, do. It's your day- whatever feels right.

[elliemay1]

IMO then you should definitely mention him, especially if you were close. It would be a lovely tribute to him and would undoubtedly please his family.

[Zacs-Master]

Then, yes as a mark of respect I think it would be better to mention him than to Be potentially accused of ignoring his parting. My condolences to you and your family by the way.

[mosesg]

My friend did a tribute to her dad at her wedding, and played some music he liked at the end of it, there were a few tears, but then the best man did his speak and cheered everyone up. If he was married I would check with your aunt before you do it as it might be too distressing for her

[4getmenot]

usually the father of the bride would toast 'to absent' friends that usually covers everyone without anyone getting upset that someone was missed. but if you want to mention your uncle thats up to you. dont go too much into detail though as will put a downer on things.

[boxtops]

Yes, certainly - "absent friends and family" will cover not only your late uncle but also any guests who couldn't be there fore other reasons.

[wolf63]

My brother mentioned it at his wedding. Our mother and my SIL's father were both dead. If you want to do it go ahead, if it feels right just do it.

[ladyalex]

Only you can decide whether and how to mention your uncle.
I am sorry for your loss.
I would be careful, though.
I attended a wedding where the bride's sister had died of cancer a few months before and the Father of the Bride's speech was much more about the daughter he had lost to cancer than about the one that was getting married.
It certainly cast a blight on the proceedings with the Mother, widower and children of the dead sister all becoming quite upset.
Not what you want at your wedding and , sadly, almost all I can remember about that one.
It is a difficult one. If it was me I'd check with your uncle's widow and any children that they are not going to be too upset. It is very early days for them and they might prefer a 'day off' at your wedding.
I'd also ask your future wife what she thinks.

I hope whatever happens that all goes well for you and that you and your future wife have a long, happy and healthy life together.

[tinkerbell23]

I think its nice to raise a glass to absent friends and absent family?

Its totally upto you if you want to xx

[excelsior-1]

good evening mike

my condolences on the loss of your uncle - but also, my congratulations on your impending wedding

it is clear to me that you very much want to say something about your late uncle, therefore you should do so.

However, the wording needs to be thought out quite carefully, and i suggest you have a word with your lovely bride and see if she can help you to compose something appropriate.

good luck with your wedding.

[ummmm]

At the start of the speech.

I think it's touching to remember loved ones on someone else's special day.

[Connemmara]

Yes cos I was part of - I substituted as the mother for my nephew so whilst he was mentioning his mother he thanked me for substituting. So yes. A nice gesture.

[Maydup]

i Agree that to mention him, or absent friends would be lovely; but only if you feel comfortable doing so. make it very brief and in the middle of the speech otherwise you risk upsetting people and yourself. Just a mention to show you're thinking of him, but no more. Its a happy occasion and your uncle wouldn't want you all to be sad.

[cupotee]

At a family wedding last weekend there was a toast to the bride's Father who passed away 3 years ago.

It was mentioned in the speech by the Uncle that had given the bride away. It was very fitting to mention him.