Mum And Her Annoying Bf

[LadyOfQuestions]

my mum is one of those people who has to have things perfect. if they aren't she gets mad. her bf is one of those men that you don't know if he is gonna visit you in your room coz he is always calling me and my sis very pretty girls. I don't actually know what to do. 16 and clueless. help!

[sandyRoe]

Your room should be off limits to him. Does your mum know about this?

[boxtops]

Well, you need to tell your mum. Her boyfriend has no business coming into your bedrooms. Your mum - I am sure - won't approve of this. Tell her. How long has she been going with this man?

[rockyracoon]

Put a lock on your bedroom door for starters. If he makes you feel that uncomfortable then you really need to speak to your mum.

[Sqad]

Well, just because he is calling you both "pretty girls" it doesn't mean anymore than that.....at the moment........just pretty girls.

Whether he will visit you in your bedrooms, only time will tell.

[boxtops]

You could be undressing, doing any sort of personal thing. It's not appropriate. You need to tell your mum, both you and your sister. How old is your sister?

[Peter Pedant]

Clueless and spam I think

You have to raise this with your mum - you do know what to do.....

from 61 and a half and clued up
is this a test ?

[Sqad]

boxy....there is nothing in her post to suggest that he has been anywhere near the bedrooms......

[vakayu]

Could be regarded as inappropriate behaviour and this man should respect your privacy and personal space, tell your Mum about your concerns if she does not already know about it,certainly to be discouraged .

[boxtops]

sqad

" you don't know if he is gonna visit you in your room " - what other room would that be, then?

[Sqad]

boxy

\\\" you don't know if he is gonna visit you in your room " \\\

that doesn't mean that he has already been.......

[Mamyalynne]

If he has already come into you room, then tell both him and Mum that you don't want him to.


If you are worried that he may try to - then mention your concerns to your mum.

[sandyRoe]

The girl seems to be saying that his behaviour is making her uneasy. Something she hardly needs in what should be a place where she should be able to feel comfortable, relaxed, and safe.

[EcclesCake]

My reading of the post is that LofQ is concerned that the BF may visit the bedrooms of her and her sister because he makes comments that make her feel uncomfortable.

LofQ, it may be a difficult conversation to have with your a mum, but you do need her to know that the 'pretty girl' comments make you and your sister uncomfortable.

[boxtops]

"you don't know if he's gonna" sounds a bit different to me to "you don't know if he might in future" - but hey ho, it's all a matter of interpretation until Lady comes back and tell us a bit more.

[douglas9401]

I get the feeling that the question stems from the modern mindset that all men are either paedophiles or sexual predators.

[LadyOfQuestions]

he has come in quite a few times but not much. one time he came and sat on me (and he is like really tall and heavy!) and started trying to have a conversation with me about us being and I quote "best buddys!!!" and then he started smiling. I got scared. pushed him really hard and ran into the toilet where I locked the door and called the police. they were going on about how he shouldn't nesasarily of done that but I didn't really need to call the police. I was only 12 at the time and I couldn't breath I was that scared!!!!!! then I told my dad and he said he would tell him to back off because no matter what the police said I was right to call coz he shouldn't do stuff like that. I was so scared!

[Sqad]

douglas....I have a certain amount of sympathy with the content of your post.

[Mamyalynne]

So , this has been going on for 4 years and what has your mother to say about it.

[boxtops]

Having just seen Lady's response, I think her concerns are justified. He's her mum's boyfriend, he shouldn't be in her bedroom.

[boxtops]

when you called the police, where was your mother?