Am Not Coping

[Smowball]

i posted on here a few weeks ago about how my son had ran away to his fathers, over 100 miles away. despite me driving to see him and him saying I have done nothing wrong whatsoever he still wants to try and see what living with his dad is like.
my heart is absolutely broken. he rings every day to talk to me but as soon as I hear his voice I crack. I don't know what to do xxx

[KristalK]

point taken Eccles, sometimes the frustration and need to try and help overwhelms good manners. Sorry Smowball, I wish you the strength to cope and hope for a good outcome.

[ummmm]

My step dad picked on everything I did...even things that normal people wouldn't notice.

Do I consider that abuse? No
Did it make me unhappy? Yes
Did it make me up and leave at a young age? Yes

[Smowball]

You've hit the nail on the head ummmm - that's exactly what the situation was. Do I feel utterly dreadful? yes. When you are so close to something sometimes you don't realise how frustrating it has got.

[EcclesCake]

Are things any further forward Smow?

The novelty of ready meals and takeaways instead of your home cooking must have worn of by now?

[Smowball]

Sadly not : (

[EcclesCake]

So sorry to hear that.

I really do hope things work out for all of you.

[rockyracoon]

Hi Smow, how's young Smow liking his new school?

[Smowball]

Says he likes the new school.......

[rockyracoon]

Double edged sword isn't it?

Half term is coming up in a week or two, will he come down for a bit?

[ummmm]

It's still early days. I remember at school the new kid always got attention so it might take a while for the novelty to wear off.

[Smowball]

He is coming home for the whole of half term which I am hoping that when he sees his old friends etc he may change his mind about going bk to his dads....... I live in hope x

[rockyracoon]

Fingers crossed x

[barba]

Let him take his time. If he needs check how living with dad is like, just let him do this. i think the most important for you is to let him be happy. I know, maybe you are great mum, love the son much. But listen, he thinks that dad loves him as much as you. I don't know if is like this or not. Simply let him check by his own. If he still calls you and talks to you, it's nothing about your fault or that you are bad mum. I'm crossing my fingers to his coming back your home! For sure you are an amazing mum if you carry so much about living with your child. I'm sending you hugs!