Defensive Smoking

[silliemillie]

My sister is a really defensive smoker, (her cough is nothing to do with her habit ect, ect)

Anyway, her son is visiting next week with his 5 month pregnant girlfriend, they won't be there long, about 2-3 hours, they have asked her in advance if she would refrain from smoking while they are there.

She has gone off on a defensive tangent saying she wasn't going to anyway, she can go for more than a couple of hours without a fag, but thinks they have a cheek telling her what to do in her own home ect ect.

I can see it from both sides, what do you people think?

[janbee]

Maybe they should meet in a café/restaurant for the couple of hours.? That way, she just wouldn't be allowed to smoke.

[ummmm]

I'm with Craft. If someone told me not to smoke in my own home I'd tell them to bog off.

I don't find her attitude defensive, her house, her rules....

[ummmm]

I wouldn't need to be asked, Jordy, but it is a cheek requesting what someone can or can't do in their own home.

I wouldn't even smoke when my sons girlfriend brings her dog here, but thats my choice, and no one has told me to do it.

[lcg]

personally, i don't understand what the issue is.....if his mother smokes while the gf is in her house, she is unlikely to explode (the gf), it won't harm the baby, and it's her house! if they feel that strongly, the should refrain from visiting, or as it has been suggested before, meet up elsewhere where she cannot smoke (i.e. pub/restaurant) - but they won't because it sounds like the gf is probably calling the shots here. all they have done is create a situation and the gf is dictating between the son and mother - never a good place to be. i would tell someone to feck off if they told me what i can or cannot do in my house - a *** cheek! now if the mum was looking after the child, or they were staying with her for an extended period, i would perhaps understand. as it is, it's really, really silly and has only caused problems (but then the gf would know that, wouldn't she.....and is probably grinning from ear to ear as a result).

[Old_Geezer]

I too can see both sides. I start to write that x is correct then get concerned that y also has a point. I think that implies both are not seeing the others' viewpoint and should lighten up. I guess it could have been avoided if visitors didn't feel a need to worry in advance about a mere couple of hours since if a host proves to lack basic courtesy they could always make their excuses and leave.

[harrylggy]

My younger brother is also addicted with ciggerrete . I told him again and agin to leave smoking, but he never hear about my advice.I want that he leaves smoking as it is injurious to health.

[harrylggy]

Well, as you can see it from both sides, why are you asking about it?My younger brother is a chain smoker. Don't know what is waiting for his future life.

[Peter Pedant]

// Some people are arsey about their smoking habits.//

and others are arsey about asking people not to smoke


as for smoking in the street - it is one of the few public places where it is lawful innit ?

I suggest - going off at a tangent again - that this is not about smoking in front of a pregnant woman but a mother-son thing
or perhaps a mother-daughter-in-law ( haha ) thing