Help My Life Is Going Down Hill

[ellzloves1d]

I have made a big mistake. And I know it. I have known it for a while but tried not to think about it bit now I can't stop thinking about it. I had two best friends but I kind of chose one of them and left the other (I chose the wrong one) I'm still friends with the other but not as close I'm having troubles with my current bestie and I don't know who I can talk to or what to do I want my other friend back. Sometimes I sit up for most of the night crying and wishing I was little again. Please help me!!

[boxtops]

How old are you now, eliz?

[Tuvok]

You're only 11/12 - you'll fall out with friends and then you'll make up. You'll also make new friends, current friends or even you may move away. And that's not limited to your age - it happens no mater what age you are.

Why not talk to your parent/gauardia or another relative or your teacher.

[boxtops]

Thanks Tuvok, I hadn't looked back at other threads.

I agree entirely - when I was your age my seriously best friends changed about every three years. I think we all go through it, not that it helps you feel any better at the moment. Can you talk to your mum?

[ellzloves1d]

Tuvok we have not had a fall out it is just the person she is
and I can't tell her things that I could of told my other friend
.I want to tell my mum but I don't know what to say

[Mamyalynne]

Just tell her what you've said here, can you not drop a note to the friend you miss to ask to rekindle your friendship as you miss them?

[boxtops]

Eliz - if you find it difficult to raise with your mum - show her this page on your computer, let her read what you have written to us. That's often easier.

[Old_Geezer]

They are both still your friends. Pay a little more attention to the one you prefer and you should find in time that you have two "best" friends again. And if that isn't what happens then maybe it will be because you gradually realise that you have changed, and want a different "best" friend after all.

[Peaspeculiars]

Ellz, talk to your mum the way you have just talked to us. That's all you need to say. I'm sure she will be glad to listen to you and advise and I'll bet any money, that she has been in the same situation herself at some point.

Why not spend more time with the friend that you do like and when the friend that you don't like asks you to meet up, just say you are busy? That way your bond with the friend you like will start getting back on track, and you will see less and less of the friend you don't like.

Please try not to get too upset by it all, be positive and stand up for yourself. If someone is not being a good friend to you, tell them.
But first and foremost, go and talk to your mum at some point today if you can.
All the best.