Do I Care Too Much About My So's Appearance??

[Fabriziho]

When I think of my SO and I think of them looking like one of my friends I don't feel attracted to that image even if I picture the same personality. Or when I think of my SO with some physical characteristic which I wouldn't find too attractive then I just don't enjoy that image as much. I would pick them over someone more "attractive" because I find them super beautiful and I love her. Do I only care about looks?

[Old_Geezer]

Is your SO already with you or are you imagining a future SO ?

It's unclear to me exactly what your question is, or perhaps more accurately what the concern/circumstances are.

Everyone would prefer their SO to look physically great but it's not the priority, especially as one gets more mature. Looks are superficial when looking for someone to share a life with. Compatibility is more important. I suspect you are overanalyzing when looking for a partner, so, yes, you do seem too concerned with physical appearance. Go out and find someone you appreciate for who they are, and not look for a particular list of 'must have' characteristics.

[murraymints]

EH ?

[Islay]

Yes

[Baldric]

Do you actually have a SO at the moment, it sounds like Mind Games to me?

[murraymints]

what's a SO ?

[Smowball]

Significant other. Don't understand the question tho

[Old_Geezer]

I assume significant other

[Gizmonster]

I only clicked on this question to find out what SO meant.

*Scratches head after reading question*

[EDDIE51]

Once you get to know someone their looks become less important. It is their personality, intellect and how you interact with each other that is more important. You seem to be basing the relationship on looks alone which is very superficial. Does she make me feel good? is what you should be thinking.

[Cloverjo]

I'm confused when people say "them" to denote a person of non-specified gender, and then refer to that person as "her" in the same sentence. I assume "them" and "her" is the same person here.

You say you find them/her super-beautiful despite other people being more attractive, so I guess you don't only care about looks. However, the fact that you are asking this question about their/her looks suggests you do a bit.

It's a quite confusing question over all.

[Tilly2]

Do you actually have a SO or is this all preparation for finding one?

[Smowball]

You say you imagine her looking like one of your friends and don't enjoy the image. So are you female? Or male and imagining her with a beard?? Honestly confused.

[gulliver1]

Thought he meant his" Standing Orders " had not been paid at the Bank.

[Zacs-Master]

Referring to your partner as a SO says everything really.

[pixie374]

No- it sounds like you are saying you find your girlfriend attractive as she is and you might not like her as much if she was different. I'm not sure what you're worrying about.

[Mamyalynne]

Yes, you are too hung up on looks - you'll miss the deeper beauty someone has to offer you that way.

[anneasquith]

Significant other, you mean boyfriend ?

[tamborine]

Youre a mean bf comparing your SO like this. I hope your SO sees how self centred you are and finds herself a more appreciative partner.

[EDDIE51]

What do looks matter? I mean you don't look at the mantelpiece while you are poking the fire ! ;-) ( sorry)

[Mamyalynne]

Well, that's dragged it down hasn't it?