Am I Wrong For Asking My Girlfriend To Text More Often

[ValidExcuse]

We currently text for around 4-5 minutes at a time once an hour or so. I work 9-16 hour shifts and only text when I get the rare moment to myself. She does not work and spends all of her time at home. Chatting online with randoms. Or watching TV. I don't make any demands of her but I do ask that she text me more often but she refuses by either not texting more or making excuses for why she cannot. Such as suddenly needing to feed her cat.

[jim360]

Don't make her feel obliged to talk to you. That's the main thing.

[Zacs-Master]

Why do you want her to text more? It might come across as insecurity, which isn’t an attractive trait.

[EcclesCake]

If you haven't got time to text while at work how will you find the time to read them?

You sound somewhat needy TBH.

[woofgang]

It sounds like she's not that into you TBH

[EcclesCake]

Sorry, I've just realised I misread the OP. You text for 4-5 minutes every hour or so??? That is ridiculous.

[Peter Pedant]

you are asking for commitment and she is clearly saying no thanks
isnt she ?

[Sqad]

"We currently text for around 4-5 minutes at a time once an hour or so. I work 9-16 hour shifts and only text when I get the rare moment to myself. "

The "rare moment?"......4-5 minutes at a time EVERY hour?
Blimey....what do you have to talk about?

Why do you want her to text you more often........when she has told you what underwear she has on , what colour and consistency and had a bit of cybersex.........what else is there to talk about?

Stick with it until or if someone more exciting comes along.

[Peter Pedant]

You text for 4-5 minutes every hour or so??? That is ridiculous.

I dunno I spend 4-5 mins every hour ( in aggregate ) answering the dumb so and sos on AB....

( otherwise washing up and knitting etc )

[ummmm]

Some people don't like texting.

[Peter Pedant]

I agree Sqad - 4-5 mins every hour

much better spent darn the club - swallowing pink gins or hem hem "Dr Sqadz special mixture" playing bridge or doing the crossword

[maggiebee]

OMG, I don't know how I managed to work an 8 hour day back in the dim and distant past without a mobile phone. Talk about being deprived!

[ValidExcuse]

@Ummmm. No offense but you clearly didn't read the post. It says she texts random people online just not me. So texting itself isn't the problem. Thanks for answering though.

[ummmm]

Well she could have been messaging people on line from a different device.

[Eleena]

V ... Can I ask how old you both are? May be it's an age thing, but expecting to text every hour would do my head in.

[jim360]

It's already quite a lot you are talking. I get that it can also feel like not enough, but if you see each other at the end of the day then that says more about the relationship and how it's going than (effectively) requiring half-hourly texts. Try and relax about it -- or, at least, try to pretend that you're relaxed about it.

[EcclesCake]

I'd feel hounded if anyone thought 4-5mins of texting per hour wasn't enough.

It's a sizeable chunk out of your working day too.

[B00]

"Am I Wrong For Asking My Girlfriend To Text More Often "

Yes.

[ValidExcuse]

@Eleena We're both 22 and to clarify we are engaged not just in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship to further clarify yes texting 4 to 5 minutes every hour is a good amount of texting but that is our main communication since we are both usually sleeping when I'm home and when I'm awake I'm gone for work ..so when you consider that I speak to her 4-5 minutes every hour in general it isn't as much as it seems like

[Cloverjo]

What is there to say every hour? I only text OH if I need to tell him I've missed my train, or whatever.
Perhaps it is an age thing, I'm very old ;(

[B00]

"and to clarify we are engaged not just in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship "

Eh?