Marriage Help Please!

[scruffbag]

Hi
I have been married for 27 years and have recently moved house to a different part of the country.
We have been extremely happy, but on Monday evening when I had experienced a bad day at work, I came home and got drunk, took a sleeping tablet, went off to bed and was verbal to my husband, by telling him ‘ I would take him for every penny he has got, if he ever had an affair!’
I am extremely ashamed of what I said, but the pressures I have on me at the moment weigh me down on a daily basis.
My husband has taken this extremely badly and life is difficult at the moment!
Please help me!
Many thanks
,

[yogi-bear]

Just apologise to your husband, saying you were out of order what was said, give him a kiss and have a happy Christmas, scruffbag. :-)

[Cloverjo]

Do you often get drunk and become verbal? It sounds like a one-off, in which case your husband will get over this. He's just angry and upset at the moment. Don't worry. Just try explaining that things were getting to you, and that you didn't mean what you said.
After 27 years he's not going to leave you over a drunken rant.

[scruffbag]

My husband is just so hurt from this and really takes things to heart xx

[Khandro]

Do you think he is seeing someone? why, even if drunk, did you say that?

[Mamyalynne]

As the first two responses say, calmly explain how you had bottled up all the stresses and strains up and sadly took it out on the one person you care for most.

He's probably in shock if you have had 27 years with nothing like this before.

[yogi-bear]

You say you've been extremely happy for 27 years...one silly remark is going to put a blot on that?.....take mine and Cloverjo's advice to just tell him that you are under a little pressure at the moment....really sit him down and talk to him... he, hopefully, will understand.....
Thats all I've got, scruffy.......hope it works out for you. :-)

[kvalidir]

Apologise to him. Tell him you love him. Tell him you have always loved him and always will and that is why with all of stress and aggro that has built up you blurted out your worst fear when you had had a drink and were not thinking coherently. Explain to him that you are so sorry for that but that you are feeling wretched because you know you've made him feel wretched and ask him if you can put it behind you. Hope everything works out well for you both x

[NoMercy]

I don't think I'd ever bother asking you for marriage guidance, D2T.

What a horrible attitude.

[albaqwerty]

The stresses and strains of a house move are bad enough, the bad day at work was probably the straw which broke the camel's back.
As has been said, sit husband down, talk to him, explain about how stressed you feel, say sorry, give him a great big hug.
Husband is probably in shock.

Do hope things sort themselves out for you. (and for husband too)

[waterboatman]

As has been said scruff. Apologise to the man you love and tell him of the stress at work and it was the alcohol talking, not you. Beg his forgiveness.

Most of us get stressed at times and say things we don't mean.

[TWR]

Drink or not, it must have been on your mind for you to say it I'm sorry to say.

[albaqwerty]

TWR, it may or not have been on their mind, it may be subliminal from hearing/watching/reading an article from somewhere.
The brain is an odd thing.

[Sqad]

LOl...LOL...Oh! dear.

To all those who have replied " apologise and tell him you love him", I bet she has done this dozens of times since the incident.
No, sorry Scruffbag,you will have to take this on the chin and "ride it out."....no easy way or short cuts.
6-8 weeks should see it quieten down.

The "seeing another woman" replies are interesting.

[waterboatman]

Nice one sqad! :o} Morning.

[Sqad]

Good morning WBM.

[TWR]

Hi Alba, I often read articles on this type of comment, some people can not say it outright but need prompting, the promt here is the booze I'm afraid.

[waterboatman]

We'll never know the reason. Non of our business anyway. ;o}

[wishesquotes]

First of all you should say sorry to him by heart, that you are feeling guilty and then explain him that this was not done intensely, it was was just a mistake and you will not do this in future.