Advice For Getting Child To Sleep In Own Bed.

[Patsy33]

My 7 year old grandson is driving his parents mad by not wanting to sleep in his own bed. He just gets so upset and sometimes violent when ' tried' to make him sleep in his own bed. They more often than not have him in with them to keep the peace and to get some sleep! As he's getting a big boy now, very squashed! He's usually a lovely boy through the day. By the way, he's an only child. Any advice or previous experience of this please??

[sherrardk]

All my children slept in our bed for far too long but we didn't have a problem with it. I just let them get on with it.

[tamborine]

Let his friend sleep over often. He will soon not like sharing toys or space

[Patsy33]

His mother's little brother stayed over a couple of times. It was mayhem! Far too excited. Had to be taken home late at night!....

[Patsy33]

After all that's been discussed, he's absolutely fine when he stays at my place. Stays in his own bed all night. The only thing I have to do is tell him stories then lie with him till he's asleep, which is never very long.

[mallyh]

when he sleeps over at yours does he have his own room ?

[mallyh]

make him feel important by perhaps giving him an alarm clock and telling him it's his job to wake mum and dad up in the morning .

[Old_Geezer]

Pets in the bed ?! Good Lord !
Buy him a teddy bear.

[Patsy33]

Yes Mallyh has his own room at mine.

[Patsy33]

He has a teddy or something similar he takes to bed OG.

[Old_Geezer]

Then he ought not be lonely. He wants the company of his parents and by making a fuss he knows that they'll let him in. It needs a firm refusal. He's a big seven now and has his big boy's bed all to himself. Give him stories as he gets at your place, maybe. After a few evenings of tantrums I'd expect the new routine would settle down. Then it's in the past.

[Patsy33]

I think you're right OG. He's always trying to get his mother's attention, she does show him lots by the way. I wonder if he gets a bit jealous when his daddy is there, fighting to get her attention. She said to me by text just now she is going to get harder with him. When he goes back to school next week he'll be in a better routine.

[DarceyK123]

Yes, he doesn't like the fact that mummy and daddy are together all night and he's been left on his own.

[bednobs]

a cat won't be the answer - my 5 year old desperately wanted a kitten (and so did we) so we rescued one. The kitten played with her once and accidentally scratched her and now she's scared of it somewhat. I am in the same sort of situation with my daughter, she wants us to go o bed at the same time as her, and if we don't she'll frequently come down to say she's lonely, bored, scared or whatever. i do the think suggested earlier - 1) make her go straight back and 2)o something boring upstairs like fold washing or so on for 10 mins. Occasionally i also go to bed (cause let's face it, having a 5 year old is exhausting)