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I have three children, my daughter is 41, and two sons 33 and 32. They all get on very well and socialize together, and the two boys adore my daughter's two children. We have a family whassup that we all contribute to daily and make comments about others posts and photos. I have a feeling that there is a problem between the two eldest and my youngest son. Last weekend he didn't turn up as promised to my gd's basket ball match as hehad had a bit of a wild night the night before, and I know his brother and sister were furious. My youngest is not commenting on the whassup as he would do normally and I can't see any interaction. This is very unusual. Should I interfere or let them work it out between themselves ? Maybe just wait a bit longer and see ? My daughter and her family are away this weekend, so is my elder son with his gf, so there are a lot of photos and messages on whassup. I see the younger one reads my comments, but doesn't contribute. I would so hate it if they drifted apart.
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.It sounds to me as you are living too much in each other's pockets. For example:
"My daughter and her family are away this weekend, so is my elder son with his gf, so there are a lot of photos and messages on whassup."
Can't they each have a weekend away without having to mess about with pictures and messages? It could be that your younger son has realised this and is keeping (what I would regard as) a sensible distance. It may also be that his siblings being "furious" for not turning up at the basketball match might have been a bit over the top for him.
"My daughter and her family are away this weekend, so is my elder son with his gf, so there are a lot of photos and messages on whassup."
Can't they each have a weekend away without having to mess about with pictures and messages? It could be that your younger son has realised this and is keeping (what I would regard as) a sensible distance. It may also be that his siblings being "furious" for not turning up at the basketball match might have been a bit over the top for him.
I'm one of three and it has its ups and downs, just like yours are having. One does or says something and the other two get annoyed. Although we dont use Whatsapp, so it takes a few weeks to filter through.
Do leave them to it, and let the youngest be a bit wild sometimes. They will all be fine again in a few days especially if you all try really hard to give each other a bit of space.
Do leave them to it, and let the youngest be a bit wild sometimes. They will all be fine again in a few days especially if you all try really hard to give each other a bit of space.
nothing unusual about parents still worrying about adult children, I do it lots. But I'd let this one lie for a while: if the source of any friction only happened a week ago, they'll have time to sort it out themselves.
It does occur to me that fury is an extreme reaction to missing a basketball match, whoever is playing in it.
It does occur to me that fury is an extreme reaction to missing a basketball match, whoever is playing in it.