Toxic Friends

[oofpoofscoop]

Alright. So, I have this really nice friend that I’ve known since second grade. I love her to bits, but the thing is that she wants me to call her and text her everyday and I have my own things to do. If I don’t text her then she spams me saying that she’s going to kill herself, that she’s depressed, and that she’s going to cut herself. If I don’t call her then she ends up telling her parents and then her parents get mad at me. So, whenever I do FaceTime her, she puts me with her parents and her parents start asking me, “Why don’t you call (insert her name here)? She gets really sad.” This friend is always relying on me and I’m not a therapist. She’s really toxic, and I really want to leave her, but how can I say it to her? I love her but she can really get on my nerves and whenever she threatens to kill herself I have no choice but to help her because I’m scared that she is. She once cut herself and that scared me. What am I supposed to do?

[Baldric]

Tell her you are going to cut off all contact with her and she needs to get real, then do it.

[cashier]

Ignore her.

[Calicogirl]

Firstly I'd speak to your parents or a teacher if possible and explain what you've explained to us. It's nice to be nice but some people are toxic and attention seeking and as you say you are not a therapist, and what she is doing is manipulative and wrong. It's not possible to genuinely support someone who is controlling you, so you have to either break free completely or set firm boundaries and stick to them, but certainly her parents are behaving appallingly putting this onto you, they need to be helping her find a way out of this toxic behaviour and finding out why she is so unhappy as to engage in it in the first place. x

[chanel5]

oofpoofscoop, you really need to take the advice of Calicogirl and speak to someone who can help you to get this sorted out. It is too much for you to take on alone. You are under tremendous pressure from this girl and also from her parents, who should not be putting such pressure upon you. Please ask someone for help, such as a teacher, or any other responsible person that you can trust. This kind of pressure is not good for your emotional and mental wellbeing.

[chanel5]

No, David Small, I don't recognise this poster under any other name. I take questions such as this at face value because I believe we should never just assume that the question is not genuine. We all have a choice whether or not we answer - and we don't really need to be told whether or not we should do so.

[david small]

That’s up to you chanel5, by the way, do you want to buy a bridge?

[calmck]

oofpoofscoop
Make some anagrams you have spoof and also poo and poof
I might be wrong but could this be the same person who kept being locked in her room for her transgression. As I said I could be wrong but seems familiar

[david small]

They say familiarity breeds contempt calmck. I won’t try to sell you a bridge:)

[calmck]

Appreciate it

[chanel5]

calmk, since we are judging people by the anagrams we can make from their usernames, I'll point out that we could make the word cak from your username. I rest my case.

[Calicogirl]

...it doesn't matter who the poster is, this might apply someway to someone else searching a similar problem so it's not wasted advice small div da :)

[chanel5]

I meant, of course "cack", not "cak"

[Mamyalynne]

If you can't or won't answer the question then refrain from cluttering up the thread.

[calmck]

In reply to “cack” calm is also in there!! Sticks and stones etc. Have a good day

[chanel5]

I did answer the question, mamyalynne, but I was treated to scorn and sneers because I took the question at face value, and assumed it was genuine. So I assume your directive was aimed at "the other two", not at me.

[oofpoofscoop]

I use this username for everything, and I just really needed advice on this. Thank you to those that gave me advice. :)

[Mamyalynne]

It was Chanel, I should have been clearer.