How To Confront Sister About Her Homosexuality?

[SisterMercy]

I have had a hunch that my sister is gay for a long while now, but I was never too sure, e.g. being very close to one girl for a long period of time, telling me they're soulmates together etc. I think lately she has tried coming out to me, but is too shy/insecure to tell me, e.g. telling me how would I feel if a friend of mine is gay or hey did you know this celebrity is gay etc. I love my sister and I accept her, but she doesn't seem comfortable coming out yet. Should I confront her? I want her to know that I love her no matter what and that this is a part of her. I don't want her to feel exluded or alienated from our family in any way (our father is not accepting), and I don't want her to feel uncomfortable. Should I talk to her about this or not? If yes, how should I move?
Thank you for your answers.

[Mozz71]

Hi SM. Tough call, I wouldn't push her too much, coming out is a massive deal. Just keep on making sure she knows that you're cool about it. She'll tell you when she's ready.

[Mamyalynne]

Confrontation isn't a good idea, just make sure she knows that you are open minded and she will open up if she needs to.

[ummmm]

Just ask.

[Theland]

Ummmm is right.

[Smowball]

I’d just say so you know what, I wouldn’t care less if you were gay, I just want you to be happy.

[tonyav]

As Mamya say's, no confrontation just ask her straight out if she is gay.

[Old_Geezer]

Personally I'd let her make her own decision. She's old enough to make them.

[woofgang]

I disagree with the just ask thing. Its not your business unless she wants to tell you. If she asks you the questions you have described then answer honestly, apart from that mind your own business.

[murraymints]

I wouldn't say anything..she'll tell you when the time is right

[waterboatman]

I agree with minty. Your sister is old enough to know her own mind. If she wants to tell you, she will, if she doesn't, she won't. Let her decide. But be there for her if she needs you.

[1ozzy]

^^ What he said^^

Confronting never made anyone open up their most secret desires.

Sit back, wait patiently until, and then be there to support.

[Ken4155]

If your sister is aware of your unconditional love for her, she will no doubt 'come out' to you in time. Do you both have any lesbian couples as friends/acquaintances? If so, why not remark, occasionally and when appropriate, how good they look together or how pleased you are that they both appear happy and settled. This may give her the confidence to open up to you. In the end, it's her call and you should wait for her to make it.

[saintpeter48]

I think that she will come out when she feels ready, in the meantime why don't you meet her halfway, and gently let her know by dropping things into conversations with her, reassuring her that no matter what, your love for her is unconditional. Good luck.

[Bobbisox1]

I wouldn't 'just ask' either, as others have said in here,when she's ready to come out she'll no doubt tell you as you appear to have a close bond

[pastafreak]

I wouldn't "confront"...nor would I ask. Be patient and let her tell you in her own time. That's what "coming out" should be about. She'll do it when she's ready and comfortable.

[ummmm]

I asked my son. I wouldn't have done if there was any doubt in my mind.

[anneasquith]

How old is the sister and the o. p .?

[TheChair]

Which confront did you have in mind?

to face in hostility or defiance; oppose:
to present for acknowledgment, contradiction, etc.; set face to face:
to be in one's way: