Should I Confront My Dad’s Drug Addiction?

[Allim91]

I’ve known about my dad’s addiction to alcohol since I was a little girl. He’s been to treatment several times and still continues to relapse. I recently found out he has a woman living with him, who now supplies him with dope.

Now I understand why he never lets me visit at his place, but at my Grandmother’s house. He knows I know about his alcoholism, but not the dope.

We’re not really close. My dad and I both can’t stand confrontation. Should I “confront” him about the dope or leave him be to make his own choices?

[andy-hughes]

I would be inclined to leave him to it.

It's a difficult situation - you want to help your dad with his issues, but confrontation, and it will be confrontation, may not be the best way, and you may not be the best person to address the issue.

As a parent, I would feel less inclined to accept intervention from my children than just about anyone, however well intentioned I know it would be.

Having someone whom you have to taught a moral code from the day when they could begin to understand what a moral code is, then turn around and address your own moral shortcomings is a uniquely difficult situation to deal with, which is why I would suggest that you are not best placed to help out here.

If there are any other close family members apart from his children who could talk to him, I would suggest that is a better option for you and your dad, to avoid damaging your relationship with no end benefit in sight.

[douglas9401]

Only if you can suddenly stand it.

[davebro]

leave him be

[lankeela]

Just let him know you still care for him and are there if he needs you.

[goliaph]

It is very difficult to get rid of drug addiction without the support of others. If you really love your father, you have to do everything you can to get him to stop using drugs. My mother used to actively use cocaine. She said it helped her work much more productively and made money to support her family. I knew there was no benefit from drugs. I learned how cocaine works(https://fherehab.com/cocaine/about-cocaine/) and decided to help my mother get rid of her addiction. It was a long process, but she is no longer using cocaine, thanks to my support.