International Relationship And Anxiety

[EllieJP]

Good morning all!

I’ve had this online friend for almost 20 years, we have met in person once, 3 years ago.
I’ve recently been actively going out more to try and meet people because I’ve been alone for a while now and finally felt ready, I have been telling my friend about this because that’s what friends do right?
So.. Recently he started opening up to me about his Anxiety which I didn’t know he had.. and that he’s in a bad place mentally at the moment.. And has come to the conclusion that I may be the cause.. Says I’ve always been there for him and his safe place and feels I may be slipping away.. and after all this time has told me he has very strong feelings for me!
So.. I’ve had these feelings for many years! I had told him previously but I guessed he didn’t feel the same..

So.. We’re planning to book a weekend away together.. See what happens.. But what can I do in the mean time so he knows that I’m here, I support him and I want to do everything I can to help him while he’s struggling..??

[Ringlet]

You won't want to hear this, but I think you should step back. this person has been an online friend for 20 years, but it is only now, when you appear to be wanting to make a life for yourself, that he chooses to say that he "has feelings for you".
What kept him? Why has he not spoken before now?
It seems to me that this person is trying to control you.
If you let this happen you will never have the chance to form new friendships and make a life for yourself, as you feel you are now ready to do.
I think you should run a mile.