Friends Question

[juliakill4]

OKAY SO. I've known this boy for 7 years now, and I've recently developed feeling for him, but I have a major fear of rejections!!!

[douglas9401]

Don't worry, there's an expert doing the rounds and he's sure to be here soon with all kinds of real-world type advice, not just that catchall magazine stuff.

Stay strong in the meantime.

[andy-hughes]

Potential rejection is part of forming adult relationships.

You won't know how he feels unless you find out.

The best way to minimise the potential rejection is to take things very slowly.

Ask him for coffee, or to the pictures, or a concert.

While you are there, read his body language and reactions, and get a feel for how he is reacting.

Guys are useless at hiding their interest, if he wants to get into something more than a friendship, you should be able to see the signs.

Good luck.

[Souldarkness]

He would have shown an interest by now, find someone who values you.

[Old_Geezer]

Most of us fear rejection, but get used to it eventually. You don't develop such tolerance unless you take chances. Continually choose not to and opportunities get missed again & again.

Always best not to let feelings build up prior to giving things a try, as if something doesn't work early on it's less of a disappointment than if left until it feels vital.

Go see if he is interested and accept whatever the result is.

[Canary42]

Rejection is very hard to take the first time. A bit easier the second time. `A bit easier still the third time.....and so it goes on until you're totally impervious to it.

A hard fact of life unfortunately - a bit like falling over when you learnt to walk - painful at first but mastered with practice.

[Canary42]

P.S. Good luck