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How Do I Tell My Mom That I Need A Few Weeks Away From Her And Her New Husband?
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I'm f16. My mother got married a long time ago and I've always got the feeling that her new husband didn't like me. They now have children together and its even more noticeble. The strong dislike has now turned into verbal abuse. Every time I come home I'm scared that's something is going to upset him. He get upset over a tag in the floor or the clean dishes not being taken out of the dishwasher. He scares me. He yells at my mother and siblings but not as bad as me. I've brought up how this makes me feel but my mother doesn't listen. I've decided to take myself out of the equation for a few weeks to make her see reason. If he take his anger out on them it is him, but if it is totally fine it is me. If it is me I will try living out of the house for a little while. I love my mom but I need a break. PLEASE HELP.
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I can't believe that your Mum is truly a "helicopter parent". If she was, she would be aware of the effect your stepfather's abuse is having on you, as helicopter parents live and breathe the experience of their children. Either your Mum is not observant enough to realise the negative effect on you of the abuse, or she has observed it and has chosen to ignoree it....
19:48 Thu 09th Feb 2023
I can't believe that your Mum is truly a "helicopter parent".
If she was, she would be aware of the effect your stepfather's abuse is having on you, as helicopter parents live and breathe the experience of their children.
Either your Mum is not observant enough to realise the negative effect on you of the abuse, or she has observed it and has chosen to ignoree it.
Whichever is the case, you owe her no special consideration.
There is no "special" way to tell her that you want to leave.
Just come out with it - "Mum, I am not happy with the situation here and I am going to live with my grandparents to give myself time to restore my mental wellbeing".
Have your bags already packed before you say, this. After you say it, do not hang around for the inevitable argument.
Just pick up your bags and go.
That's what I did when I was 16.
It's hard, but you have to be strong.
If she was, she would be aware of the effect your stepfather's abuse is having on you, as helicopter parents live and breathe the experience of their children.
Either your Mum is not observant enough to realise the negative effect on you of the abuse, or she has observed it and has chosen to ignoree it.
Whichever is the case, you owe her no special consideration.
There is no "special" way to tell her that you want to leave.
Just come out with it - "Mum, I am not happy with the situation here and I am going to live with my grandparents to give myself time to restore my mental wellbeing".
Have your bags already packed before you say, this. After you say it, do not hang around for the inevitable argument.
Just pick up your bags and go.
That's what I did when I was 16.
It's hard, but you have to be strong.
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