Mothers Day

[roadman]

it is mothers day this week and it is made very clear with the cards and gifts in the supermarket and the emails and adverts online but it can be a very hard day for a lot of people who have lost their mum so how do you recommend people on how to deal with grief on mothers day

[MargoTester]

I lost my Mum 27 years ago and I still miss her but my grief is not raw anymore and I'm able to remember all the happy times we had and her sense of fun.
It is very hard if your loss is recent but try and focus on all the good times if you can. I don't think the grief ever really goes away, you just learn to live with it

[Ken4155]

This time of the year is quite bitter/sweet for me. While i always look forward to the Cheltenham Festival, my mother (herself a keen punter, to very small stakes) died on Gold Cup Day in 2012 (16th March).
I usually visit the grave on Mother's Day with a bunch of her favourite flowers and, weather permitting, i'll spend a half hour or so reminiscing. I am usually joined by one or more of my daughters so we usually bounce memories off each other and always leave the graveyard with smiles on our faces.

[Buenchico]

I simply don't do grieving for people. (Indeed, I find such a thing hard to understand). So I'm obviously not the best person to answer your question here.

However there are plenty of websites which seek to offer advice on the subject. Here are just a few of what, to me, appear to be some of the better ones:

https://www.cruse.org.uk/understanding-grief/managing-grief/grieving-on-mothers-day/

https://www.womenshealthmag.com/uk/health/mental-health/a26807913/mothers-day-grief/

https://www.mariecurie.org.uk/blog/coping-with-grief-mothers-day/150285

[Barsel]

My Mum died in 1997 and I still think of her most days and always on special days, but life goes on and I'm a Mother now as are my 3 daughters and I'm usually lucky enough to spend it with one of them, So although I miss her, I don't feel I grieve for her anymore but yes, I do miss her very much.

[roadman]

not much hard to understand about missing someones companionship or comfort buenchico sometimes hearing peoples personal experiences can be beneficial thank you to everyone who has shared

[rowanwitch]

It's also hard for those who never got to be a mother, I just try to ignore it, and my friends don't tell me what they did with their kids and grandkids. My own mother won't know what day it is but I have sent a card.

[roadman]

yes that is the other side of the coin the mothers who may have lost children or may have not been able to have them

[david small]

My wife feared and disliked her mother to put it mildly. She was a tyrant to her and subjected her to wonton cruelty. She is relieved that she is gone.

[naomi24]

Mother’s Day or not I think of my mum every day and I miss her every day.

[rowanwitch]

Neither my sister or I had children despite treatment, The family line terminates here! We don't have childless friends so we do get left out of a lot conversations so mothers day is more of the same.

[roadman]

sorry to hear that rowanwitch

[rowanwitch]

No mostly it's fine, my own mother tried hard to make me feel a failure for not providing grandchildren. I used to say at least I won't be repeating your rubbish parenting then. Luckily I had a lovely mother in law for a few precious years.

[ladybirder]

It is my youngest son I grieve for not my mother. My mother who my brother and I think never loved us, lived to a ripe old age of over 100 years, my beloved son who loved me and who I loved and adored died at 31.