Has My Friend Gone Off Me?

[abbeylee90]

Maybe I'm overeating but my friend seems to be leaving me out from my other friend since they been friends which was NYE. We been friends for over 10 years nearly me and my other friend got a group she said to my friend in there she will have to come to hers but no mention of me going also since she moved in there with her partner she don't message me first so I've left it also she said she will pop my friends birthday in her works diary bit said she will have to see closer to the time for my birthday which is in May  I feel like she forgotten me and you'd think she known my other friend 10 years. I under of course rent is expensive 

[abbeylee90]

Barsel not if I don't tell them.

Rent on a flat

[Neveracrossword]

Abbey, did you mean that your friend (one of the friends mentioned) has rent to pay?  If so, why does her rent affect your friendship? It's not as if you are so well-off that you're lining up expensive activities or outings.

[abbeylee90]

I mean to why she can't confirm nights out in advance but said she would pop my friends birthday who in July in works diary 

[ynnafymmi]

Just show them your Fork Lift Driving Licence,abbey,that will show them.

[Hazlinny]

Not easily confused but, Abbey, your posts sometimes confuse me!  Do you mean that your friend has gone to live with the other girl so as to share the rent?

[Neveracrossword]

Abbey, I think you're overthinking and thinking too much - live life instead! I would hate to think one of my friends was prepared to analyse, give meanings to, everything I said or did.

[abbeylee90]

Ynn. They won't care about that.

No she invited my friend over her flat but not me.

[scorpiojo]

Haz, I think the friend lives with her partner. Possibly. 

[Hazlinny]

O.K.  I would suggest being more independent and not worrying so much about what these so-called friends are doing or saying.
Concentrate on finding a good job and saving money.

[naomi24]

Perhaps she put the other girl's birthday in the diary just as a reminder.  You've asked her to go out for yours so she's said she'll confirm nearer the date.

[abbeylee90]

Hazinly well she said when I was my ex keep in touch with friends incase something happens same could happen with her.

Yes thanks see how tomorrow goes.

[Hazlinny]

OK Abbey - as you say 😊  Good luck for tomorrow - hope all goes well.

[abbeylee90]

My other friends said she wants to go for a meal but maybe she will confirm near to time and haz thank you.

[Raving-Mod]

ynnafymmi if you have nothing constructive to contribute, don't bother posting in any of Abbey's threads.

If you choose to ignore this advice or question it, you will be suspended.

You have been warned.

[ynnafymmi]

As ive said previously on here moderator-strange days on AB nowadays,Strange days indeed.I dont think there will be a Answerbank this time next year.

[jackthehat]

ynnafymmi - I don't think ABs existence is predicated on your comments being allowed to stay, or not.

abbeylee has a right to post her questions and however baiting the comments she receives in return may be, she never bites back.

If you can't give her a sensible answer then just walk on by, and if you won't give her a sensible answer, then you'll just have to enjoy your time sitting on the naughty-step.

abbeylee - it is almost impossible for any of us to know what is going on in your friends' mind. If you can't ask her outright, I would say just assume that you have got it wrong and carry on as normal.

[naomi24]

Ynna, why are you telling me?  I've not said a word .... but now you mention it I will.  It doesn't matter how long you've been here.  You aren't exempt from the rules and you don't get to dictate who posts or what they post.  If you can't respond in a civilised and pleasant manner to abbey, don't respond at all.  It's not difficult.

[jackthehat]

ynnafymmi - Did you mean me, rather than naomi?

It doesn't matter what you think of abbeylee's motives.

Ignore her posts - it's really easy not to post on them.