Online Dating - Is This Acceptable Or Should I Avoid

[bluefortress]

My friend has inspired me to join a dating site - I have been browsing profiles who have 'liked' mine and one seemed a good fit for me but then at the end of his description on his profile he has put

'I have a 9 year old son who always comes first if thats a problem I am not for you. Subscription ended' 

Its true that kids come first we all know that but for some reason seeing it written down on a profile seems a bit.. I don't know. 
 

What do you think, should I say Hi to him. What he says it true with most people they just dont say it, and at least Id know where I stand : /

[ToraToraTora]

Run a mile love, that does not need saying, sounds like a nightmare to me.

[naomi24]

I think it's very fair of him to say it.  I wouldn't object to that.

[DDIL]

I think it's very fair of the man.

[Madgeorge]

Basically he is saying you will always be second best. If you are happy with that, go ahead.

[naomi24]

I don't think he's saying that.  His relationship with his son is unlike his relationship with a partner.  A child must come first in any relationship.  Grown ups know that.

[ToraToraTora]

"A child must come first in any relationship.  Grown ups know that." - so it doesn't need saying, weirdo alert.

[naomi24]

It does no harm to let people know where they stand.

[nicebloke1]

A bit of BS I would say, it catches a womans heart right away. Forget it.

[Karamia]

He may have felt it needed saying if he has experienced problems with this issue previously. 

[pastafreak]

I'd say it's right for anyone...male or female...to mention it upfront. Then they can be accepted as they are or bypassed. 

[bluefortress]

Theres just something about the fact that he actually said it. Logic tells me its fine as its just the truth but my instinct sends out a bit of a warning. But then Im always a bit untrusting in general. 
 

[nicebloke1]

Theres no good reason in my book to mention a child at yhis point. Maybe a 2nd or 3rd date tell them you have a son and see what the reaction is. Detail of who would come first at this point, is pointless.

[bluefortress]

Karamia this is what I thought. Maybe his son was in hospital and his gf demanded he take her out for her birthday or something : D

[naomi24]

Perhaps he's met people in the past who've expected him to share more of his time with them than, because of his commitments, he is willing or able to do.  

[ToraToraTora]

TBH you have to be a bit weird to even do online dating at all.

[andres]

I think you should find out if he is a single parent ,divorced or separated before going  any further. 

[bluefortress]

I am a bit weird Tora (whatever that means) been told it a few times. Have you never been called weird?

[Hazlinny]

Wow, thought this was an "Abbey" post at first glance!

Perhaps he could have worded the statement differently but no harm in chatting to him when you might learn more.  As has been said previously, relationships with son and a partner are not quite the same.

[bluefortress]

Yes you are right, I don't even know this andres 

[gulliver1]

BF  15.18....Tora "Have you never been called weird" splutter splutter .PMSL.