Opinions required please!

[mifta]

Hi all,
My sister split from her husband three years ago (they have two sons aged 10 and 3 years) as he was having an affair with a woman in Brazil whom he met whilst travelling on business. They have subsequently married and she now has a marriage visa, we believe, and lives in the same city as us. Her ex and his Brazillian wife see the children every weekend and overnight and my sister has positvely encouraged this, despite the background to their divorce!

He takes the children on holiday, in this country, with his family and wife.

He has now started to put pressure on my sister to take them abroad for a holiday.
My sister is reluctant due to the fact of his wifes status in this country, the fact she is from Brazil, as we think they have no legal ties to GB, and the fact they have no ties to this country(no mortgage. etc)
She is worried they may run off with the children and although seems quite unlikely, we never thought he would have an affair either. She has a huge family in Brazil, who have a family lawyer business.

Do you think she is over reacting or do you think she has cause for concern?

Many thanks

[Jellybean22]

I'll keep my opinion short and sweet....

I would never let my ex and his new wife take my children out of the country. Don't trust him, he cheated on her. You can't trust somebody that does that.

[buzybee]

hi mifta, it happened to my cousin and it got really ugly!! they had a 7 year old boy together. he divorced her and married a canadian woman 4 days after the divorce came though! she was a well-to-do with a high and mighty family back in canada.she was determined to have the kid come live with them. im telling you what that little guy had to go though is something i wouldnt wish on any child! things were sorted out and he stills sees his dad but my cousin has full custody, and he has to run everything by her before he does anything.
please please please tell your sister to get some legal advice ASAP!!
Better to be safe than sorry!
best of luck, hope everything works out x

[kittygg]

The best thing I would suggest is to seek legal advice and if it comes down to it all visits could be supervised buy a third party of your choice!
You could even contact your citizens advice beauru for some free advice before contacting your lawyer!

[mifta]

Many thanks for your ideas. I have passed them on to my sister. It is reassuring to know that others feel we are not being dramatic!!
Cheers

[anna_2die_4]

i dont think your sis is over-reacting. her husband broke that vow which he made to her so she cant trust him, especially to take her kids out of the country. she should defnately get legal advice. good luck x