implications of not being christened???

[ilovemarkb]

My nine year old son hasn.t being christened, can this cause any problems for his future (i.e getting married etc).

[spudqueen]

Neither of my children have been christened but I don't see it as a problem as if they wish they can be baptised when they are older. My Mother-In-Law, though christened as a child was confirmed only a couple of years ago, aged 70, so it's never too late!

[MoxyMoo]

I dont think people worry about whether others or not are christened these days!
It certainly doesn't stop you getting married.

[ilovemarkb]

thanks for that, that puts my mind at rest!

[kat2206]

ACTUALLY - If your child when they are older still choose NOT to be christened then they will never be permitted to be a godparent to someones elses child as in the eyes of the Church they are not a "proper" christian and how can that person be a godparent in the eyes of the church if they are not believeres themselves. I am not a big church goer at all so please dont shoot the messenger......

[yummymummy]

As my boyfriends family told me when I was at a niece's christening whilst I was pregnant,
"children who aren't christened will go to hell"

My response was,
"well, I'll be there first waiting for him" (as I'm not christened either).

Guess it depends whether you believe all the religious stuff or not as to whether it makes a difference.

[Mammar]

He may actually thank you for not making that committment on his behalf as he grows older.
He can make that choice for himself when he decides what he does believe in.

[T'is me agai]

If a child wants to marry in a church and hasn't been christened. They would first have to be christened. As they can't unless they have been christened. They also can't become god parents them selves as well

[Lily_b]

God parent wise it is dependent upon dictates of religion and the minister/vicar/priest.

Our CofE vicar only required one godparent to be christened.

[queen 1954]

my daughter whos now 30 has not been christened but she got married in church 2 years ago and is also a godmother .

[Bohne]

I can confirm the godparent thing:
I am catholic (they're the worst... ;o) ) and my son has been christened last year.
We only needed proof of one godparents baptism.
The second could be any religion, or none at all.

The question would rather be, what's the point, since the godparent's 'job' is to help bring up the child in the chosen faith.

On the whole I don't think it's a big deal any more these days.

[ethandron]

i have 5 godchildren, varying in ages from 29 to 4, and have not once been asked if i'm christened. i believe these days it's more to do with lifestyle choice than religeous belief. neither of my two children are christened, nor was i married in church. i would agree, these days it's no big deal and seems to be more about having a party afterwards.

[Beanmistriss]

My sister got married in church and is neither christned or religious in any way. My mum is a god parent and she has never been christned and again is not religious.

[ilovemarkb]

thanks once again for all your responses. Believe it or not the reason i havn.t got him christened is because since my mum died a lot of my family have fallen out and i couldnt stand the thoughts of any bust-ups at my sons christening! quite sad really!

[toecrusher]

we got married in 1984, i was catholic, hubs was nothing at all. he had to be chrisened before the priest would agree to marry us. sure that wouldnt happen now, but do check.

[stacey22]

i chose not to have my daughter christened, for my own reasons. Sadly she died and i then decided that at her cremation i wanted someone from a religous background to assure me that she was in safe and was in heaven. The funeral directors really struggled to get a priest to conduct her cremation, due to that fact that she hadn't been christened. One came to see me and was very rude and stated no major details could be said about her at the service as it was 'just a set service for the unbaptised child'. Neddless to say i didnt use him! They were trying to punish me for not having any 'faith' in the first place. In the end the only priest who would do it was a retired one. He was fantastic and did my little girl proud. He believed that God would never turn away a 'beautiful little girl' , i now feel at ease.