Giving away his sister

[Beanmistriss]

My boyfriends sister is getting married and he is giving her away as their father is dead. He doesn't have a clue what to say in his speech. Does anyone have any ideas? :)

[confused79]

To be honest it would best come from him and memories he shares with is sister and he could mention their dad and how proud he feels he is standing in for his Dad and how his dad would of felt and maybe about him really being there in spirit maybe.
Its hard to tell really this might make everyone cry too much it depends how they dealt with is death etc.

[jackthehat]

He will have to imagine the things that his father would have mentioned;
Her good looks;
Her acheivements;
His pride in her and in this day;
Compliment the grooms good choice;
Praise the grooms family;
Instruct the groom to take good care of her.............

He will (naturally) have room to insert 'brotherly' comments, i.e. that she only looks good after spending an hour in the bathroom using the entire contents of a small chemist to achieve it..........but, these amusing asides shouldn't be allowed to over-balance the 'tribute' from absent father to daughter.

If he writes his Dad's speech out first, imagining his Dad's voice and tone, he will find gaps and pauses in which to insert his own 'sniggering' comments, like he would if his Dad were speaking out loud.

Be a sounding board for him.........let him try out every write and re-write until he knows exactly what to say, that way some of the nerves will disappear.

[Beanmistriss]

Thanks very much you guys, those are some great ideas and very thoughtful xx

[Ams6784]

it would be best to come straight from his heart about how he feels about his sister i know that men aint very emotinal though but i bet it would mean the world to her if he could say something like dad would be so proud of you as im sure he would be anyway!!! it would make her very happy im sure!!