why do we still bereave

[lennielulu]

i still wonder why i cant get over my grandparents deaths. its been over 15 and more years, ive seen tarrot card readers and others they sy my grandparents are my guardians. but it dont seem to comfort me. i help others through bereavement but cant help myself why why

[Sweetie77]

My Dad died when I was 6 (I am now 29) and I don't think I have or ever will get over it. For me I think it is a lack of closure, he died so suddenly.

I don't think anyone ever truly gets over a berevement they just learn to live with it

[lennielulu]

even though we live with it, it's just such a bad thing. i hear a song for instance and it reminds me, and i cant sop crying, then i think do we really pass over so easy or do we have to prove it, or if someone cant let go, can the deceased move on . becaude if they cant move on until i let go then how do i let go , so they can move on.

[Sweetie77]

Mike & the mechanics - In the living years

Makes me sob every time

[lennielulu]

im so sorry ur dad died , my grandad was like a dad to me. i used to live with him. i probably sound quite selfish compared to you. but i just wish my nan and granpops were around for me now. i feel so low at themoment and i just want them here now. i have my mum nd dad but although they live so far away. they are'nt the type of people who would come and help me out.

[bowiefreak]

bereavement affects people in different ways even though life goes on you never forget loved ones that have passed away.... just a thought have you considered counseling for the bereaved it may help

[lizzydrippin]

lennielulu, I think your grandparents have moved on, really, feel happy when you remember them not sad, be happy that you had them for the years that you did. Do you really believe that they would want you to feel this way? You loved them, they loved you, they would so want you to be happy.

[lennielulu]

i have had council, it didnt help. im not sure she understod where i was comin from but thanku for ur help i feel people think i hould give up. i went through a lot in life nd maybe thats why i cant let goxx

[lennielulu]

izzy i cant let go, bcoz i dont know how to. i had a crap life then, they left me. i want them to c, my children. they would be so proud of me. i want them back why is life so cruel. i helped some others over their loss, why cant i help mself xx

[lennielulu]

i cant let them go i dont want to,