holiday home problem

[cris r]

We have a holiday home in Spain when we were last out our neighbours who are very good people asked if we were coming out at christmas we said no as our two sons will be home, they then asked if we would mind if there family could use it over the christmas new year period usually we do not let enyone use it as we look on it as our home but my husband had had a little to drink and said yes, they were over the moon. The following day he regretted it. Since then we have found out our two sons will not be with us for new year and my husband has said he would like to go to spain for new year and asked if i would email our neighbours in spain to tell them this. he was the one who gave permission so I feel it is up to him to break this news to them Am I wrong he makes me feel that I am.What would anyone else do Ideas please

[redcrx]

id make him do his own dirty work. You have had reservations from the start about letting them use the place and it was him that said they could.


He should be the one that lets them down.

If he wont then use his email addy, write and sign it as if it was him :)

[Annlinda]

If I wanted to use the holiday home I would email them pretty darn quick so they can find alternative accomodation for their family. Wouldn't mess about arguing who should do it.

[MustangLady]

yes, i agree that the email should come from him and not you, however, if i were you .. you write and send the email and sign off his name, otherwise if he writes it he might use you as an excuse, that way if you write it 'from him' at least you know what is said...

[thugulike]

If you agreed to them using it you should honour that agreement and not mess up their Christmas.

[warpig3]

First off, your husband made the agreement with them so s
he should take responsibility for withdrawing it.

This is just a suggestion (not ideal but it may be better than nothing), would you consider e-mail them and explaining the situation but offer them the use of (i am assuming) the spare room for their guests, purely for sleeping arrangements? Obviously not ideal but it would maintain better relations with your neighbours, who are as you say good people.

If not, then they should be notified sooner rather than later.

good luck.

[lennielulu]

i would be rather annoyed if someone said i could use their holiday home for christmas, and then let me down. there is only 12 weeks left until xmas so i suggest you forget about your husband and email these poor people straight away. or like warpig said. offer them to use ur spare room if you have one. but you need to be quick so they can make other arrangements.

[Pippa68]

I wouldn't be letting them down at all. An agreement is an agreement.

Do you really want to spend the next few years being neighbours with them after letting them down? if your husband wants to go to Spain then tell him he should either:

A) Make alternative arrangements to stay somewhere else

or

B) email them himself, arranging alternative accomodation for them.

[ecrs2300]

phone them and apoligise for the mistake that you have made and ask them for the house at christmas but if they let you have it back make sure you take them out for dinner or something at christmas

[cris r]

Many thanks for all your ideas we did resolve it. Hubby emailed them explained situation they were great about it they said they would make other arrangments for there family. As it happens there mother who was also staying for christmas is now going home so they do have a spare room after all !! i think But just to let you know when our neighbours asked my husband if there family could stay he was a little blot o being on holiday and all. As I said it is a lesson learnt