Ex wife say i can't let me girlfriend near my son

[station4]

Hi
I am going throught a divorce with my wife and am staying a friends house. I have a 14 month old son who comes to stay. I also now have a girlfirend that lives with her two children. MY son has a fantastic time at my girlfriends house and she loves him as her own. But my wife says i can't see him if i go near my girlfriend. My son also likes my girlfriend. She found out this weekend that i had stayed at her house with my son. when i dropped him off she and her sister tried to lock me in the house to ave a go at me?? she said i lied about where her son was but my argument is that i am his parent and would never put him in danger and i not recieve a written itinery of her whereabouts

[ethanryan]

i dont believe she can stop you unless she feels your son is in danger in anyway, but i do believe that his mom has every right to know where her son is stopping. if anything happened she would not know where to find him.

can you not come to some sort of agreement cause although she cant stop you taking your son there she may start stopping you see him and will make the divorce very awkward

[Ice.Maiden]

I agree with Ethanryan. I'd be horrified if my children were late home, or I needed to contact them and they couldn't be found. It's only right that your wife knows exactly where your son's going to be when you look after him. If you don't want to lose contact, being honest with your wife is the only (and right0 thing to do.

[Stepmama]

I've been on both sides of this fence ... had my daughter taken to my ex's new girlfriend's place and I was fuming. Truth be known I think I was jealous and wanted him back so made a big deal of it. When the dust had settled and I had moved on I didn't really mind because I knew he would be looking after her properly (I did lose it a bit when I realised the new girlfriend was being called Mummy too!)

The flip side of that is my new husband's ex was the same with me. I wasn't even allowed in the village because it was her village! I didn't actually meet his children until about 15 months later because of it. She changed her tune when SHE met someone and wanted him to meet her kids!!!

In essence, until people move on, in my opinion, they find a new lady a threat ... doesn't mean she has to find a man but it means she has to put her issues behind her and behave reasonably.

[clare_1]

I was in this situation myself not that long ago except me and my ex agreed to share custody. Anyway I went to a solicitior and they sent him a polite letter stating the law and threatening court proceedings. It was the last I heard of it from him.

[weeal]

Its normally caused by jealousy, I've been there (in the girlfriend's shoes) and it was a horrible situation to be in.
I got on great with the children and the mother resented it.