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Help for 19 yr old
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Not sure I have put this is the right place as my daughter is now officially an adult but anyway she is quite emotionally young for her age and is desparate for a boyfriend to see regularly. I don't like her talking to people on the internet in case this leads to 'meetings' with inappropriate people - you know what I mean.
I can't just wash my hands of the problem and say she is now an adult because people are all different and she still needs my support. What can I do to help her not be so lonely. She needs some nice friends!!
I can't just wash my hands of the problem and say she is now an adult because people are all different and she still needs my support. What can I do to help her not be so lonely. She needs some nice friends!!
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.Does she have any hobbies that mean she mixes with others her own age? Maybe you could both join up to an evening class and she could meet people that way,she would then have you there for support if there are no people her age or she doesn't get on with the ones that are.You would also both be learning something new as well.
Jeff, are you her dad?
If so, one fact you will have to face up to is that you can't be her chaperone for much longer. If she needs support because of special need(s) you need to be putting in place the right groups and organisations to support her as an adult with these needs.
Is it that you are reluctant to let go - please consider this however painful it may be, because it may be that you are part of the problem, not the provider of the solution.
If you are her dad you will not be around for ever and she has to lead her own life and make her own choices.
My mother considered my bloke highly inappropriate and would have prevented our getting together if she could have done - we have been together for 29 years.
Parents can get it wrong. If the little bird can fly at all let her go when she's ready.
If so, one fact you will have to face up to is that you can't be her chaperone for much longer. If she needs support because of special need(s) you need to be putting in place the right groups and organisations to support her as an adult with these needs.
Is it that you are reluctant to let go - please consider this however painful it may be, because it may be that you are part of the problem, not the provider of the solution.
If you are her dad you will not be around for ever and she has to lead her own life and make her own choices.
My mother considered my bloke highly inappropriate and would have prevented our getting together if she could have done - we have been together for 29 years.
Parents can get it wrong. If the little bird can fly at all let her go when she's ready.