Do you think you can live without your family?

[rebecca321]

As above really. I'm already not talking to my sister, dad and aunt so the only person I have any contact with is my mum and that's only because I live with her. If I get a job their I'm going to move to London, not just not have any contact with my family. I'm just wondering what everyone thinks of this and if I'm being stupid

[China Doll]

It rather depends on your situation Rebecca and your past and family history. I wouldn't advocate cutting your family out of you life but I'm using my own family as my basis for comparrison and I'm very lucky with the family I have. So before anyone can give you a decent opinion you'd have to be more specific about your reasons why you don't wish to remain in contact with them.

[tigwig]

I personally couldn't be without my family. I know not everyone gets on with their parents but mine are like friends to me and my sister. I think life is too short to fall out with family unless there is a really good reason. Last year I watched my mum in law die of cancer and since then petty arguments seem just that and you realise how important people you care about really are

[Sad GranDad]

Hi Rebecca, you're not being stupid and the fact that you're asking for opinions is good. It shows that you are adult enough to care about your life and people in it.

I guess a lot depends on why you're not talking to your sister, dad and aunt and whoose choice that was/is. I reckon you should write down how you feel about each member of your family, not only now but in the past. This will help you realise what, if anything, you may be missing out from in your future life. If you live in London or Austrailia, yoiu can still have a family relationship. YOU need your family and your family need you, I put money on it.

DON'T give up on your family, I'm sure they haven't given up on you.

Be lucky Rebecca, love and be loved.

Regards, Den. (a father of 3 girls, 19, 23 and 25)

[NiceCupOfTea]

'Friends are God's apology for Relations'. That was on a post card I sent my mum from Ireland years ago. She wasn't insulted even though I wrote on the back 'Please note this'. As long as you have the sort of interactions round you that you want on a day to day basis you'll be fine, whether they be friends or family. Lives carry on, and will merge or not in the future as you will. Don't be overly rude and ignore your family, but neither be sycophantically nice to them. Just be you, and keep in contact with those you wish as often as you wish.

[jb190281]

I moved away from home just over 4 years ago, and its been a mixed bag of emotions. there will be times you miss people, and thats perfectly normal. but your mum is only at the end of the phone, or a train journey away. i moved to a city where i didnt know anybody, made some great friends, and met the man of my dreams. but i always made time to go back home every few weeks.its a big move, so consider it carefully. everybody has different circumstances, but im sure youll make the right decision for you.