Rat of the week

[polyanna18]

How would you react to this.

I stayed the other night with my cousin and her husband. The next morning I was sat on my bed fully dressed and saw her husband come out of their bedroom to go downstairs. I politely asked him if he would carry my portable oxygen cylinder downstairs. He replied that he was in a hurry and to ask my cousin to bring it down later. My sister, who was also staying, heard all this and said she would take it down. I don't think he had known my sister had heard this. A few minutes later my sister took the oxygen downstairs and lo and behold he is sat at the kitchen table eating toast and reading a magazine. It was about another 10 minutes before he left. I didn't say anything to my cousin as she is really nice and I didn't want to upset her. Why do some people act like this?

[Rosetta]

Miserable s0d, it would only have taken a minute or two.

[polyanna18]

Thanks Rosetta - feel better now I have got it off my chest.
I hope he has a guilty conscious now. I could barely look him in the face when he came back. I was absolutely flabbergasted when he said that but expected his wife to carry it down. It is not very heavy but a bit awkward when you are disabled.

[lungpoopy]

if you are like methen poop on the toilet floor and tell him you were trying to carry your o2 but it makes you poop. then watch the sucker clean it up. and take photos

[bednobs]

just becauase you are unable to carry it down yourself, you shouldn't have the expectation that other peole will do these things for you, could be lots of reasons, ie he wanted 10 mins to himself, he has a bad back, anything! perhaps he didnt want to, and you had other people that did bring it down, so it's not like you were abandoned upstairs

[sleepy1]

maybe he dont like you staying .! just a thought

[brenda]

To Pollyanna

Always remember what goes round ,comes round.

Try really hard to forget the miserable b*****d

Keep smiling xx

[polyanna18]

Thank you Brenda - I will - forgot him already lol

[MiniN]

What a git!

Let's hope he's never in a position where he needs help....

[bednobs]

lol just because someone is disabled, it dosent mean they have a right to expect people to do what they ask! And just because someone is disabled, dosent mean everyone around them have to suddenly become selfless angels!

[edukes]

I agree with you bednobs.
i worked as a cab driver and i was amazing the amount of people who suddenly lost the use of their arms, when i pushed them up the ramp, and i would ask them to push too and half way through they would stop, bloody heavy all of a sudden how the hell i never done my back in. then you get the 20 mins of " poor me look what happened to me" storys
In the end bought a non disabilty cab, because of that.
sorry guys but i know this is not very PC and that not all people in wheelchairs are like this this only the ones that feel sorry for themselves. or think the whole world should feel sorry for them. that are giving the rest a bad name.

[Velvetee]

Maybe he just didn't want you there. Some people resent their partner's relatives staying.

[legend_vivo1]

Well depends what your nutcase family are like?

If you got loony family members well.

Wouldnt be a surprise really lol.

[tiggertan]

Why do some peole bother posting when they have nothing constructive to say?!

Sorry to hear that Polyanna, I see what some people are saying, like maybe he has a bad back etc which is understandable. However, what would annoy me is the fact he lied. Even if he was in a hurry, surely it wouldn't have taken him a minute to help you.

I would casually ask your cousin if her husband has a bad back or something, just to let her know. If he is a bit of a laxy liar behind her back, maybe she should know.

Good luck.

[polyanna18]

Thanks for all your answers.

The cylinders themselves are not that heavy - I can normally carry them say from room to room with no probem. The problem was that she has no bannisters and I didnt feel I could safely carry it downstairs on my own without falling. As far as I know, he has no back problems and he didn't appear to not want us there. It was complete mystery to me and my sister as to why he reacted like this.