15 but want a baby!!

[Ronie-MayTee]

im 15 but REALLY want a baby, iv bin with my bf for about 1yr and 8 months now i can understand why he dosnt want one bcoz he is 17 i dont no what to do,
i dont really want to speak to my mum about it coz i no she will go mad and so will my dad can any 1 help me?
thank you xxx

[k8bailey]

until you can support yourself and a baby it would be irresponsible to bring a child into the world, at fifteen you are not in a position to start a family finacially or mentally! finish school, get a job, get a life, experience the world first!! oh and don't try and trap your boyf thinkin he will change his mind, he won't!

[joggerjayne]

Don't be stupid, you silly tart

[tiggerblue10]

What will happen to you and the baby when he gets jailed for having under age sex with you?

[firetracie]

Hi Ronie-May - why do you want a baby so much?
What do you think it will be like?
Where will you live?
Who will pay for the things you need?
What will you do when you're baby is sleeping most of the day?
What will you do if your baby doesn't want to sleep much at all?

[beverleymot]

do you think or feel that maybe something is missing from your life, because a baby wont make up for it. when youre 18 n ur friends are out partyin n getting careers you may end up resenting it, and you especially will when you get older and get a mature head on! life first then have a baby. not saying youll resent having the baby but resent that you didnt live a little first!

To be honest im not surprised your 17 yr old boyf dont want a kid- hes is obviously a bit more sensible! n if u say your parents will be angry then doesnt that tell you something?! they are older and wiser and know whats best for you.

[Barmaid]

Are you insane? you are still a child yourself. Your parents are right to go mad. A baby is not a baby for more than a few months. It is a growing human being who, for the first few years of its life requires almost constant attention.

My friend (aged 35) has recently just had her first baby. Her and her long term partner (10 years) are frankly knackered. The baby sleeps for no more than 2 hours and then cries. It requires regular feeds and nappy changes, financially they are struggling despite being an affluent professional couple. This is a massive commitment.

But Ronie, what is more important is that you should live a little yourself. My oldest friend had a child at 15. Against the odds and with the sterling support of family and friends brought up a child who is well adjusted and sensible (despite training to be a lawyer!!). She admitted to me very candidly that if she had her time again she would not do it that way. She had no teenage years, no young adulthood. Her life revolved around her child. She has 3 girls now. All have been spoken to in extremely strict terms about safe sex, about the importance of a stable relationship and also about the fact that you need to live a little first.

Trust me Ronie, whatever you want, you need to put to one side. Your bf will not support you and by the sounds of it, your parents may not either. You will be entirely alone. How then will you cope?

I don't wish to be harsh, but "wanting a baby" at 15 is madness. I am 37 and would give my eye teeth for a child, but I am smart enough to know that I cannot do this alone and would be bringing a child into a house of chaos with someone who has an inability to cope with everyday life alone.

[sir.knobby]

I'm sure paul gadd will oblige.

[terambulan]

That means you've been with bf since 13? You're still a child yourself and have nothing to offer your baby except love.....which soon dissipates with insecurity and immaturity.

Have more respect for any children you have and wait till you have a good quality of life to give them.

[Sammc]

Ronie
Im 26 and have been with my boyfriend for 7 years.
I wouldnt want a child now because were to busy having fun. We work hard and enjoy lots of nights out and great holidays.
Also even with good jobs we wouldnt be able to afford to give the child the life we would want for it - could you?

[sara3]

surely this is the greenie question of the day?

[ILNY]

babys cost money - to get money you need a job, to get a job you need a good education - to get a good education, you need to finish school!

[naomi24]

Sara, I think you're right.

[sara3]

thank you Naomi, sanity is restored ;o)

[Bathsheba]

Certainly no prospects there Sara, eh? :-)

[sara3]

is there ever??!

;o)

[Bathsheba]

:-) xxx

[Barmaid]

sara, you are most probably right, but I tend to take all posts like this at face value. I reckon if someone gets a kick by getting advice, then they probably need to get out more. Even if there is a 1% chance they are genuine, I'll answer, but then I probably need to get out more too.

[sara3]

I take your point, Barmaid. if these posts are genuine then they need some good advice from the likes of us.. maybe I'm too cynical.

well, I am too cynical!

[Ronie-MayTee]

all your answers are a big help.
and thank you for replying
you are all right .
i dont know why i want 1 its something that is growing on me, its not a fasion thing i swear it aint
thanks xxx

[lozzylou]

ronie if you want a child so much, why dont you leave school and do a childcare course, then you will be around children all day but can give then back at the end of the day and go home to live your life

maybe being around children all day long will make you realise how much hard work it is.