found my daughter on facebook

[todoronron]

so basically I havent seen my 13 year old daughter since she was 4. I have been constantl looking for her on the web. Anyway what I do know is that her mum has remarried and I know the city where they live and even the school my daughter goes to. Basically I found my daughter on facebook and made a false profile as a girl and added her. She accepted my friend ship and asked me who I was. I just said sorry I thought I knew you or you parents. By the way her last name has changed from mine to her mothers husbands name. I asked her if she ever changed her last name and thats how I knew her and she said no. I then said oh ok then is 'dave' (her mothers husband) your dad? After that question she removed my friendship.

I found her dad also on FB and have messaged him saying I do not want anything only to know she is doing ok and for her to have the option to see me if she wants. The fat tub of lard (yes he is really really fat) did not message me back.

I do not want to get directly intouch with my daughter as its a critical age it could really mess her up if she doesnt know I exist.

I dont know what to do next. Any tips?

[NoMercy]

You have no idea what they've told her about you. All I will say is if you do want to make contact, don't allow them to stop you.

But pretending to be a girl on facebook could be used against you in court... and will draw all sorts of conclusions.

[jackthehat]

With your history, gravy, do you really want to open this particular can of worms.........?

[todoronron]

NoMercy are you serious? Besides they would ever know about that in court...

[Mick-Talbot]

It sounds like you have already started the process of 'messing her up'
What is she now thinking about the weirdo asking personal questions?
Followed by another weirdo contacting her (step father ?)
Will she put 2 &2 together?
How did you know how to find her using her new surname?

[NoMercy]

Am I serious about what, precisely?

[todoronron]

messed her up by asking personal questions lol

serious about getting in trouble for a fake profile

[snags]

Good morning toadcolon... why not invite them all round to your place for one of your stunning meals of mushy peas, new potatoes and frozen best buy beef burgers...

[NoMercy]

A grown man befriending a young girl, pretending himself to be a young girl... If her mother and stepfather were so inclined, they could accuse you of grooming. For Funks Sake.

[jackthehat]

Grooming and/or stalking...............oops..........been there, done that, eh ?

[NoMercy]

Is this all a bloody wind up?

[B00]

Yes nomercy :-)

[todoronron]

I cant see that standing up in court lol. grooming my own daughter. Thats a right laugh

[LoftyLottie]

Is it really Gravy!!

[jackthehat]

I don't think it is a wind-up.
It's one of the few occasions when 'gravy' is being straightforward in his posts.

Although his version of sanity is somewhat at variance with the majority of users on here.

[NoMercy]

Your last response has done little to convince me that you should have any influence in your daughter's life - if indeed you even have a daughter.

When all's said and done, no influence is better than a negative influence.

[joeluke]

Who's 'gravy'?

[jackthehat]

Shall I post the newspaper link, gravy ?

It may help people who don't know your back-story.........

[snags]

Would that be the Northern Echo link?

[LoftyLottie]

Too complicated to explain Jo Luke. But Gravy has been around for years and years and years on here and is a real wind up merchant, but never abusive. Sometimes he posts really genuine questions or gives good answers. I never did have a problem with him. I can't see that this is a wind up, it's not in Gravy's wind up style. I haven't actually seen any other posts by todoronron so wouldn't have a clue who he/she is.