i want fathers name on birth certifacate but he is refusing

[lobban]

[boxtops]

I believe he can - but I may be wrong

[ummmm]

Not much you can do about that I'm afraid.

[ummmm]

You could go straight to the CSA/solicitor and ask for a DNA.

[joeluke]

He's not acknowledging that he's your father?

[momcj]

Why do you want him on there?

[cazzz1975]

does he doubt he is the father?

momcj, whilst the mom may not care, its important for the kids to know who their father is.

[momcj]

Yes i know but if he didnt want to go on the birth certificate it does not give much hope that he is going to be a good role model or dad? I just wondered if it was because she was worried she could not claim CSA or something.

[cazzz1975]

we dont know his side of the story, some men are tricked into fatherhood. which can make them more than a little resentful.

[lobban]

We were in a relationship, and because i've had cancer was told i cld never have kids, but a miracle happened and he doesn't want to know. i just want my son to know who his father is if anything was to ever happen to me.

[dothawkes31]

You can call your son whatever you like and if you want to give him the fathers surname as his middle name that would be a start. If you are not married then you cannot include a name for the father when you register the birth unless you both go together and both sign, or the fathers goes alone at some point to add his name.
As I said, if you want to, call the child after the father.

[boxtops]

I'm sorry for your dilemma, but how amazing for you that you had a baby - as you say, a miracle.

[lobban]

I read somewhere that i could get court order to force him to put name on, anyone know about that?

[dothawkes31]

I know nothing about such a thing, he can be made to have a DNA test done and that can be the subject of a court order I think,

[welshlibranr]

Probably best that he doesn't have his father's name on the birth certificate, given the way things are really! The father would have more control/rights if his name is on there!.........................

[lobban]

Thank you, certainly is!!

[momcj]

Welshlibranr that is what i was trying to say really. You have the control here. It is a miracle, and you have done all you can, if he does not want to be part of the childs life then there is nothing really you can do. Be a great single mom and and if ever your child in the future wants to know there father then you just tell the truth. Good luck, and enjoy motherhood its fantastic x

[lobban]

thank you so much. x

[lotsafun]

being a single mother is hard work but hey you reap twice the rewards. It makes me so mad when i read posts like this of a parent not wanting to have any aknowledgement of their child but if this is the type of 'man' that he is then both you and your child are better off without him, your child will get enough love and more off you alone.

[Tim123]

You have to bear in mind that what you consider a 'miracle' he probably considers a 'disaster'. I assume that early on in the relationship you told him that parenthood was not a possibility? I have an enormous amount of sympathy for him if that is the case.

[lobban]

Considering i never asked to get Cancer, think that bit harsh!!