wedding at registry office

[mollykins]

Can you still have bridesmaids at registry office weddings?

I'm not sure why they're getting married at a registry office, the bride (not sure about groom) has been married before, but I would have thought they'd have enough money to find a church/cathedral in London or some castle somewhere scenic to get married in.

Plus neither have children, and I'm the closest young female on the brides side, plus the groom has a sister but we're not sure how old she is (probably at least 30) or if there would be anyone else suitable. But they're quite posh and will probably be going for a big posh wedding. I'm not getting my hopes up, but do you think they'll ask me, that is, if you can have bridesmaids at registry office weddings?

[jackthehat]

As no-one here will be able to come upwith a suggestion you feel to be satisfactory, why don't you just ring the happy couple and ask them...............?

[mrs_overall]

Of course you are....it's just that you sound awfully snobby and critical with the way you worded the post........and that's just my opinion

[mollykins]

I don't have their number jack . . . and one half of the couple is in South Africa at present.

[ettelloc]

Of course you can have brideamaids. you can als have a best man, ushers (plural) photographer, videographer, paigeboy etc etc. Just because it is in a registry office doesn't make it any less of a wedding to warrant less participants in the service. A registry office ceremony can be just as beautiful and personal as anywhere else.

[anneasquith]

registry office.......looks lovely, do only poor people use the registry office to get married,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, ;)

[welshlibranr]

You can have bridesmaids at a registry office wedding, but it's less common than in a Church wedding, hope they ask you anyway molly!............

[Eve]

I think it's a personal thing, their day after all. Maybe they don't want to spend a load of money on a big wedding they would rather put into other things, especially with how much they cost these days.

She may also have friends she would like as bridesmaids/maid of honour. Thinking about recent weddings I've been to, most of them had friends, some had a sister, one a cousin who is essentially a best friend.

[rowanwitch]

Registry office...more likely to be brides friends ....as they tend to be less formal affairs... and young bridesmaids are a pain anyway...I had one she was completely obnoxious the whole day

[anotheruser]

The main reason i think for the registry office wedding is that - you said - the bride has been married before. She would not be able to marry in a church/cathedral!

[milly143]

Molly - in response to what you say about them having money so you don't know why they didn't find a church, that matters not a jot. My sister and her husband do very well financially but when they got married last year, it was at Marylebone registry office. It was a fabulous ceremony and the fact it didn't happen in a church made no difference to anybody. Getting married is not about how much money you can spend on it.

They also had a bridesmade (one of my other sisters who is mid 30's) and a best man. It's entirely their choice. How we are supposed to know if they would ask you, I'm not sure how any of us are expected to answer that.

[tamborine]

anneasquith, Charley & Camilla married in a registry office

[mollykins]

Thanks welshli, milly places like a church seem grander but looking at the website, it does seem like a nice place, I'm sure if you paid some churches enough they'd marry them. PS my nan wasn't ammused when she found out as she's deeply religious and is making them have some kind of blessing somewhere . . .

[milly143]

But perhaps they don't want 'grand'. Perhaps it's the meaning of being married that's more important to them than the venue.

[mollykins]

Milly, just about everything else in their life is grand; the holidays, cars, jobs, house, clothes, boat . . . . . .

[mollykins]

Probably, with a decent DJ and food . . .

[cazzz1975]

their wedding, their choice

end of.

[mollykins]

I know but aren't I allowed an opinion.

[dotty.]

I allowed noone any opinions on my wedding, huge affair in a church, noone was allowed to make any desicions and if anyone discussed it without my approval they were shot.