the secret of effivient housekeeping is being able to keep everything moving, clothes are going through a cycle of washing / drying / ironing / being put away / being worn and left on the floor / being rounded up into a washing basket, crockery is doing a similar thing, food is constantly being eaten / restocked, this is only the obvious bits. it takes a certain type of mind to know where absolutely everything is at any given moment, let alone to know exactly what to do and when to keep the whole thing moving. i honestly think that women generally have the edge on that type of thinking, men have their strengths tho, when the inevitable spanner in the works occurs (blocked sink, blown fuse, broken down car etc) men can be wonderfully efficient and deal with the one problem in almost obsessive detail, someones got to do that and it really gets on my nerves when i have to spend all day sorting out one problem so i'm glad i have a man who's prepared to. my best friends are exactly the opposite, he takes care of the housekeeping and she takes care of the things that get in his way. i dont think equality is meant to apply to what each person does, i think the equality should be in what each person gets from the relationship. it makes me happy that i only have to point and say 'darling' when something breaks ( 3 kids, this happens alot), he's happy that he doesnt have to work out where his clean shirt everyday has come from, we have completely different abilities but between us we've got it all covered (and we really miss each other if one of us has to go away for a few days)