How Should I Approach A Girl in The AnswerBank: How it Works

Be natural. You give little information but have a few things in mind you could chat about to avoid it going silent and awkward, but apart from that most chit chat is fairly meaningless. Say, "Hi", and ask about whatever you might ask an existing friend about when you have nothing specific in mind. I take it this is a sort of first contact type situation. Maybe not stay too long first time out then; make yourself known and friendly, and hope to build if it goes well, at your next meeting ?

HarryLetterman

It is important to stay comfortable and be natural. Don't pretend to be someone else. And you should have some topics that you can talk about. When you will become more skilled you won't have to think of those in advance, as they will just flow naturally.

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superhero-man

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thanks old geezer and harry letterman will keep that in mind! :)

but is it okay I mean like feeling before ya know approaching her?

rockyracoon

Of course you're nervous, no one likes the possibility of rejection but you'll never know until you try. Just be yourself.

Faint heart never won fair lady. :)

superhero-man

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I am not afraid of rejection I mean I just don't want to creep her out I mean I will go and talk to her

I was also wondering that should I discuss this with my teacher should I take her into confidence before taking any step further?
I mean she's very thoughtful and she advises me sometimes when I act reckless according to her!
during her class

she's a woman I mean
she would know how to approach her right?
and thank you guys for helping me with this
It really means alot! :)

rockyracoon

Have you asked for advice about talking to girls on here before, perhaps under a different user name.

superhero-man

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yeah it was uzair ahmed 1994 :P

superhero-man

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I used to be an idiot I mean such a stupid person back then
the questions explain it all in that previous account I had on this forum

I mean someone would assume what a douche he is when looking at my old profile!
but now I have taken it into account and I am working on myself and how I will be going to treat others and now I just try my best to be as good as possible :/

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Old_Geezer

"but is it okay I mean like feeling before ya know approaching her?"

No rule says you can't feel desire before getting too far in a relationship (i.e. prior) but it is hardly best practice. a) It means you are likely known to each other already yet you've not yet shown interest, and may mean she now sees you as a friend rather than considering you as a potential boyfriend. b) If you already have an emotional attachment then a rejection is much harder to accept, since you have already imagined a preferred future; it is better to get to know someone first then let feelings develop.

boxtops

speak to her once. See how she responds. If you don't feel she's keen, then don't press it. Stay back, and try again in a couple of weeks' time. Nothing puts a girl off more than a guy pestering her.

superhero-man

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but Old_Geezer and harry letterman and everyone who is helping me

she used to stare at me most of the time while there were other people around too I mean other guys who were more better cooler and wealthier than me!!!
I mean out of all the cool guys who all were and are still after her ya know they're wealthy,they're famous and people know them
but the thing that bothers me is that why did she stare at me
I mean I am weak skinny guy don't have much friends and I am always avoiding people while she's very outgoing and also an extrovert which is appreciable and cool

I was just suppressing my feelings for her ya know like I know how I've been with people in my past I used to be such a jerk but umm now I have accepted the fact that my actions and words has hurt people
So I now have stopped sitting with groups I rather keep myself busy in drawing character artworks or books or music
but don't think I feel sad or gloomy that no one talks to me or anything
I am preparing myself to be a good person now and I won't regret if she don't show any interest in me I mean I am happy but the thing is I just want her to read that mail and it's all up to her to decide that's all

and I know that I am very much afraid to talk to her but that doesn't mean that I will pass this time or back out
I am going to talk to her I have made a decision that's why I am here. :)

andy-hughes

The worst thing about liking a girl is that the more you like her, the more the thought of her rebuffing you is awkward.

But she is just a person, like you, and she may even like you, and be too shy to notice.

As advised, be natural, she will be nervous as well remember.

Keep the conversation nice and casul, and if you get the feeling she is uncomfortable, then keep it brief.

If you are getting good vibes, ask her if she'd like to meet for coffee, and if that goes well, you can take it from there.

The worst that can happen is that she is not interested, but you wonn't know until you get that first conversation going.

Good luck!

superhero-man

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thanks andy :)

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