im so angry

[phleb]

because i will work only 15 hours, i am entitled to no help with childcare at all. Not even for half an hour in the morning. That is all i need, just half an hour. New manager wont let me start at 9am instead of 8.30am. My old work know im leaving, although havent handed my notice in yet, i feel i want to stay now, even if i will struggle with the hours there.

can they force me to leave now? my boss has told everyone im leaving, she seems happy for me, already made plans for my old job to be downgraded and employ someone lower grade to save money. what would you do in this situation?

Its annoying that i can't do my dream job just over half an hour, have to drop the kids at school at 8.45, but have to start work at 8.30am. It all stinks.

[Anngel]

Have you thought of approaching someone at the school gates who lives near you? It seems that you are only working two days. Maybe you could take their children on two other days?

[lcg]

does the school not have a breakfast club your children can attend? why not drop them off earlier? i remember dropping my son off at 0820am instead of 0845am as i had to get to work - it wasn't a big deal. check things out with your school, or how about asking one of the mums who live nearby to walk them for a small sum of money each week? for that small amount of time, it shouldn't be a big deal x

[Mojo-Jo-Jo]

Sadly, it's very much an employers' market right now, which effectively means they can do what they bloody well like which makes me furious.
Trouble is, those in charge to a man and woman were born to be politicians and have never done anything else. They genuinely have no idea.

[phleb]

lcg76 - breakfast club starts at 7.30, but charge £3.50 each child per day. i will work every morning for 3 hours. So this will be so expensive to me, and i dont qualify for childcare vouchers either.

Anngel - i don't know anyone at the gates, as its not a local school, and really would not approach any random parent as i don't trust anyone with my kids, but childcare providers.

Mojo jo jo- i agree with you.

[factor-fiction]

I have been through this- I remember well the stress of sorting out childcare and making a mad dash to work until the employer was persuaded it would be in everyone's interests if some flexibility was granted.

I apologise for not remembering the background to your case, but were the hours of work known before you accepted the new job?

I hope you can sort something out but if you can't you could ask your employer to accept the withdrawal of your resignation

[phleb]

thanks factor. i did know the hours, but i also knew there was breakfast club at school, until today, when i found out it cost 3.50 per child per day. And all they give is juice and toast. My kids will always be fed before they go anyway, all i need is someone to watch em before class starts and really thats only half an hour. Im so upset about it, i thought i had it all figured out.

[Mojo-Jo-Jo]

Have you tried talking to the school?
They may help, or be able to point you in the right direction. Try your CAB as well.

[phleb]

school is not open till monday, so will call them and see what can be done before i make any rash decisions. I just feel that because we have kids, we get penalised. Its so not fair!! my friend tells me im better off not working at all and claiming benefits, wheres the justice in that!! she says she is doing fine, actually i can see she is never stressed like me.

[Ellipsis]

Is breakfast club still £3.50 if you drop the kids off at 8:15 breakfasted, rather than 7:30 unbreakfasted? You might be able to do a deal with the school for a reduced rate.

[phleb]

ellipsis, you have a point, thanks i will also check that out.

Hey, I knew i could rely on you guys/girsl for sensible answers. :-)

[Mojo-Jo-Jo]

She's never learning, contributing or setting an example like you either.

[phleb]

i agree mojo, she isnt, but its the government that enourage that kind of behaviour, by rewarding those who dont work. I am always stressed, working, cooking, cleaning, kids etc, she always seems so calm and happy, im always skint, she drives a s max, and wears nice clothes and take regular holidays, she has four kids.

[Mojo-Jo-Jo]

Makes you mad doesn't it?
I was you, long ago, but now I go mad if I am out of work for too long and I have a 26 year old son who works hard and owns his own home. Not bad in this day and age.
My childminder refused to take him when he was ill, which, with him an asthmatic child, made things hard.
Try the avenues suggested then if you're still stuck come back and ask again. You're right. It shouldn't be easier to not bother, and I easily could have chosen that path.
I didn't. You shouldn't either. I can tell you have some sense. :)

[phleb]

mojo, i do have sense, and i would go insane if i didnt work, i have never claimed jsa, always had a job somewhere or other, supermarkets, offices, you name it i have done it. I just don't believe in sitting idle on free money. I hope this doesnt come to me now!!

[bednobs]

That's only £3.50 for over an hour of "babysitting", plus breakfast included - sounds like really good value to me. If they had to go to a child minder, it would probably be much more than that. How much did you think it was going to be just out of interest? can your husband go into work any later?
If you haven't handed your notice in, they can't make you leave.
Sorry you feel like this about your nice new job :(

[Mojo-Jo-Jo]

Well if it does it does. You will have the life skills to cope with it.
Good luck and let us know how you get on. I truly hope you sort something out.
I'm off to bed now. night.

[phleb]

bednobs - i thought it would be around £5 per week, or £1 per day. I didnt know how expensive it was, as i have never used it before. I know it doesnt seem much, but it builds up for more that one child.

Thanks mojo, and nite nite.x

[~Wingnut~]

Hi phleb!
Our school has a drop off club from 8.15am everyday for £1 per child as well as breakfast club, if your school don't do this suggest to them it could be a good idea as I know it has been a big help to a lot of parents. Try to go to the next parents forum meeting and ask if it could be done or ask a parent govener about the possibility of it happening.
Good luck :o)

[bednobs]

oh i absolutely agree it mounts up, it sounds like you were rather unrealistic to expect an hour of babysitting plus food for £1!
Are you reducing your hours? is that why ctc is stopping?

[~Wingnut~]

Also if your school start back on Monday you may find today and tomorrow are teacher training days so there could be someone there to ask if you ring, save you waiting until Monday :o)