Bullying

[blueroy115]

My daughter and son in law last weekend were driving home when a private car came along the inside trying to overtake them, on a approaching a roundabout the car tried to cut them up which angered my son in law and he gave a v sign to the other car which also had two children in the rear. No more was then thought about it, five days later my daughter was having a bath about 8-00pm when there was ringing of the doorbell only to find a man on the doorstep demanding to speak to her husband who at the time was out, she explained what had happened in which he said that was me ( a policeman). He came back just after her husband came home in a police car was very abrupt and said they had three options, points off his licence or an �80 fine plus something on his car or a court matter. He said to my son in law " what do you think you should have " My son was very intimidated and upset., in which the policeman left and said they would be hearing from him. Surely this is not correct procedure, can anyone help.

[Ethel]

Have they got this person's details?

If so, they should find out which station he works from and make an appointment to see the inspector of that station.

They should write brief notes of the incident - date, time, location and so on; and the same in respect of both visits.

This will help them convey the problem without getting flustered.

If that doesn't end satisfactorily they can take it further following the police complaints' process.

They should make it very clear the standard of driving by the other person was frightening, or whatever words best describe the incident.

[colin6789]

I would be very Carerful police today are not to be messed with, as your daughter and husband have a family it would probably be better to take the points and a fine than end up in bigger trouble and maybe a criminal record.

[Jafi]

I don't agree Colin, sometimes you have to stand up for your rights.

The policeman was driving in a reckless manner, he can't say he was on official buisness at the time as he had his two kids in the car.

I would follow the advice Ethel has given.

[colin6789]

I thyed to stand up for a woman and her mixed race 10 year old son against verbal and threats of phyical abuse by 4 men, they turned out to be off duty police. Only being Ex military got me off a vey bad beating.

Think blueroy is it worth it.

[Ethel]

Yes, it is always worth it.

Can't see how being ex-military got you off anything though

[colin6789]

They thought twice about taking on a man who could be just as nasty and violent as they were and would probably have badly injured as leased one of then before they put me down.

[blueroy115]

Thanks all, i have also found out that this policeman took the fingerprints of my son in law in his house and never said he was the person involved in the incident till he got in the house. Can they pursue a case if it involves themselves.

[scoobydooby]

I would also question how the officer located your son in law. Obviously a PNC check was done on the vehicle registration but I think you might find that if the officer did the check himself, he could be in very serious trouble. If he wanted to persue this, he should have made a report and allowed another officer to do the investigation. Don't contact the Inspector, get your son in law to phone Professional Standards.

[tufty7]

It sounds that he has used his position as a police officer to obtain the details, he needs reporting as this is a sackable offence , It sounds like he wants to frighten more than go ahead with any offence , He is acting like like victim, judge and jury , thats not allowed, he must be a right thicko falling in his own trap by investigating it himself , call his bluff and get this bully out of his job , we don't need coppers like that .
Don't be fobbed off by a sargent who will say he will sort it out on the quite, get it done officially and teach this bully a lesson .... Your son in law should also learn from this , let the dick heads race off and get in the hearse first .. don't rise to it , there is enough dick heads on the road .

[Martiens]

If policeman were other driver and felt your son were wrong he should have laid a complaint and let it be investigated. He would never have been appointed the case since he's the complainant. He is in this case a civilian just like your son. If a policeman on duty lays a charge against a member of the public he acts on behalf of the state. If it was me, I'll report him to his superior and I'll call the local newspaper.