sorry but i realy nead to know this question please

[treborrobert]

one parents on benifits...is it right that a father can come and go everyday to the mother of his kids and she can still claim one parent benifits....its not just a personal attack at one person its just a general question

[ummmm]

There is nothing wrong with a father seeing his children everyday. It is in fact very good. Just because a father sees his children on a daily basis doesn't mean the mother is benefiting financially.

[suzie1]

i dont see a problem with it, many people are doing this now, coz the government sucks and doesnt pay enough when your working, but pays well when you dodge the system, i dont blame them personaly, but im a hard working mum, so i couldnt do that, i'd get bored!!! i have to pay taxes, and everything else, but people on benefits are getting it all paid for them, so most people wouldnt say no to it.......just off to pack my hubbys bags for him, dont want to live together anymore, im going to put a claim in for single parents allowance and pack in my job lmfao!!!

[treborrobert]

and its the same answer if they sleep together. surley thats not right or fare..

[Justincider]

I would say no, she can't. Just because he is not living there 24 hours a day,doesn't mean he's not providing for them. If a husband is away for two years in the army, it doesn't make his wife a single person.

[sara3]

treborrobbert, each case like this is assessed on an individual basis. various questions are asked, and the answers put forward to a Decision Maker who will decide if it is reasonable to assume a couple are living together.

if a living together situation becomes apparent to the fraud dept in the DWP/Local Authority, it will be fully investigated and this can lead to the prosecution of the person who falsely claimed to be a lone parent, and sometimes the other party, too.

[sara3]

the decision is not based on sex!

[ummmm]

That's different Robert because that would be considered a relationship.

[Sandy-Wroe]

How would you know what they do in the privacy of their own home? Or rather, in the privacy of her home?

[ummmm]

So if I split up with my partner and move to a house round the corner is it not feasible that my ex would pop in to see his kids on a daily basis? Doesn't mean he's providing any extra to me because of it.

[sara3]

I've been divorced for donkeys years but my ex comes over to pick up or drop the kids pretty much every day.

we're so not living together!

[treborrobert]

we all see our council tax .. rent .. morgage...food...all go up but our wages stay same. and we all work very hard to put food on the table...and you hear about one parents and partners still together geting 2 lots of benifits no rent or council tax egc. makes me sick and yes also jelous

[society]

"and its the same answer if they sleep together. surley thats not right or fare.. "

by sleep together I imagine you mean sex; do you think it'd be right for the girlfriend to have sex with soneone else other than her boyfriend?

[ummmm]

True....people are free to sleep with whoever they want.

[treborrobert]

well there is one good thing about this ...think about all the husbands liveing with nagging wifes...it will make them think lol move in a flat near by still get your sex and football and peace all in one lol sounds like every mans dream lol

[ummmm]

When people split they can remain friends. My ex use to come round for dinner about 3 or 4 times a week.

I wasn't on benefits though...