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sorry if similar asked before-my twins not seen their dad-ever-got divorced from only Dad they know (final papers) in October, had upsetting call from 'friend' earlier today, who i only speak to as live in same town as childhood. The twins Dad, (who her brother knows) has heard about my divorce, and 'now' wants access-can i refuse? they were one when got married,so not told them about birth dad.They are 9.
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.Why would you want to stop the father seeing his children. Although he has left it a long time, better now than when they are grown up and he has missed everything. I know your feelings will get in the way, but I think it would be good if he could make amends and get to know them now and the twins probably do wonder about their missing father.
You have to ask yourself joggybear, do you want him to ignore them forever? It has probably taken some courage for him to decide he wants to see them, and you should not be the one to stop this initiative. How will you feel if you do block it, and when they do get together maybe as adults and he says - I wanted to get to know you years ago, but your mum stopped it. They will not thank you.
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Ummm, we may not know the full story here. I just cant see the point of obstructing a parent, no matter what the past is. He has lost the past years and maybe has realised what he has done and wants to make amends. Rereading the original post, I am assuming that Joggy married someone else when the twins were one, so they think of this person as their father. So if there are 3 adults involved in this, then they will need to talk it through to come to a solution that is in the best interests of the twins.
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