Breast Feeding At A Private Venue

[Balfron]

I understand most of the breast feeding legislation (Breastfeeding etc. (Scotland) Act 2005) but Subject to section 1 subsection (2), it is an offence deliberately to prevent or stop a person in charge of a child from feeding milk to that child in a public place or on licensed premises.

However for me the definition of Public Place and Licensed premises, does not cover a private function such as a wedding. So my question is - is it still against the law to ask an individual to to stop breast feeding in public sight at a private event. I.E the top table of a wedding

Is their any case law on this ?

[shaneystar2]

Will she have this baby clinging on during the actual wedding ceremony too ?
As a bridesmaid she's going to have to hand it over to someone when she follows the happy bride down the aisle .
Can't someone just hold the baby while they take the pics and then she can nip off if the baby starts yelling .
She sounds very selfish to me .

[Sammy48]

I've got three children (all grown up now)and have never and would never have considered breast feeding them in front of anybody let alone on the top table at a wedding reception. I think she sounds immature and wants the attention on her and not on the bride.

[Balfron]

She is older and married too. It is all about the "what if" question. Her reply being its terrible that she should have to move because she may need to breast feed saying its not fair, even tho we are coming from the view we complete support breast feeding and i dont believe any of our guess would have a problem with it. But i am paying £20000 for this to be all eyes on my our half not for it to be spoilt during the speech by everyone looking at the bridesmaid instead all ettention being on the bride for 15-30 mins tops.

[ummmm]

How old will the baby be?

[Sammy48]

Balfron you are concentrating on this happening during the speeches, what if the baby needs feeding in the church whilst you are at the alter and she lobs her macaroons out during the service lol lol

[Cmitchell]

Right, she's clearly more bonkers than I previously thought and looks as tho she will not be moved on this one.
You must now either play dirty or put up with it.
Christ I feel so sorry for you but I so want you to be happy and not have the day ruined by a rat bag of a sister in law!!!
Options...
1) try you best to pick up some germs from somewhere to make her ill before the wedding, I'm thinking a used tissue/ really rank dishcloth. If she gets poorly hopefully she won't come.
2) similar to the above, give her a dose of food poisoning. Extreme I know but this now calls for extreme measures!!
3) speak to her husband on his own, tell him your woes and appeal to him to address the situation.
4) last option, as someone else said, speak to her parents and tell them exactly how THE TWO OF YOU are feeling. Hopefully as I'm imagining they might be a little older they won't be quite so "liberated" as the "whip-it-out-mammary-mammy" and will take your view and either talk some sense into her or - in no uncertain terms - lay "the law" down i.e. some common sense.

She presumably wouldn't want to go upsetting all 4 of you just to prove a point?

[Sammy48]

I was thinking the same, ummmm. OMG she is not one of those Mums still feeding her kid at the age of 7, is she. lol

[cassa333]

For goodness sake. Drop her as a brides maid. It is your wedding and your money being spent. If she goes off on one that she is being left out because of breastfeeding tell her tuff. My neice is getting married later in the year and not even grandparents are invited to the ceremony.

Alternativly she can be bridesmaid but sits on another table. The top table has bride and groom and parents and the bridesmaids and pages ect are ALL on another table.

[Cmitchell]

Bl00dy good answer cassa333. And if you take cassa333's second suggestion, then be sure to do place names and put her NEAR A DRAUGHT or NEAR THE TABLE WITH ALL THE SMALL CHILDREN!!!!
Let's face it, she can't be such an 4rse and get away with it!!!

Balfron, DON'T be DICTATED to by a self centred, selfish and attention seeking sister in law! If you allow her to get away with it this once she will only get worse. I speak from experience with these kinds of things. You have been warned. Oh and Congratulations and good luck for the big day! I mean that, have a wonderful day. ; ) x

[Ellipsis]

I've been to a few weddings where others have attempted to steal the limelight from the bride. A drunk best man exposing himself during his speech probably topped the lot - that wedding is recalled as "the one where the best man got his knob out". Ask your future sister-in-law if she wants YOUR wedding to be referred to as "the one where the bridesmaid got her tits out". If she does, as others have suggested, simply relegate her to another table. It's your day, not hers.

[bunkmoreland]

how long have you been on here balfron ;-)

[ummmm]

Personally I'd dismiss her as bridesmaid for the simple fact that she's not doing her bridesmaids duty. Her duty as a bridesmaid is to keep the bride happy.

I understand breast feeding women standing their ground against the 'call me old fashioned' brigade but we all have to make exceptions in life. Considering there is just a small chance that the baby will need feeding in those 30 mins I really cannot see why she will not compromise.

Like someone else pointed out, what will happen if baby wants feeding during the photos? Will the wedding party have to sit round and wait potentially messing up the timetable for dinner and speeches?

[NOX]

Sammy48 'lobs her macaroons out during the service'-
I don't think I've laughed so much for years- that has to be answer of the week.

[bunkmoreland]

think this whole thread is a wind up. if you click on balfron's name,he just registered tonight.either he is a regular member who registered for private reasons,or it's a wind up for the whole breast thing.

[stewey]

Taking a rather simplistic approach, she is trying to prove a point, and so are you. It's your wedding, and you're the boss: inform her that her baby can suckle elsewhere other than the head table.

[woofgang]

If both you and your wife to be are unhappy with this then there is no problem. Its your wedding, do things your way, tell this woman that she is no longer a bridesmaid or invited and that way she can breastfeed when and where she likes.

[rockyracoon]

I'd reiterate what others have said, I'd drop he as a bridesmaid as the occasion is clearly too much for her. As for the legal bit, I think that's a stretch, you'll only be asking to move to another table not make her leave the premises, she'll still be in the same room.

Actually, I wouldn't have the selfish mare at the wedding at all.

[Barmaid]

tell her that if she breast feeds during the speeches, be prepared for the best man to say something along the lines of "I see nothing has changed with Mary, she's still getting her baps out in public".

[gness]

Brilliant Barmaid! Though I'm with Bunkmoreland. :-)