Social Services

[w0bblyduck]

Can a mother on a protection order be made to remove her husband's possessions from the marital home if she doesn't want to

[EDDIE51]

So what does she want to do with them? Just hold on to them? He is entitled to his possesions back even if he is banned from the house. Could a friend or relative collect them?

[w0bblyduck]

the mother and her husband both don't want the possessions removed it is social services who are insisting on it because they say it is traumatizing the children which it isn't all they want is their daddy back home as does the mother

[tamborine]

If SS pay for mum & kids only, then SS can insist the father leaves.

[w0bblyduck]

The father was accused of wrong doing from the past but never charged social services are trying to force them to divorce but neither want to

[EDDIE51]

Still confused '' the mother and her husband don't want the possesions removed'' Are the 'husband' and the' father' the same person?
You need to explain the whole story , seems very unusual for SS to try to force a divorce against both partners wishes.

[Canary42]

Don't worry, it won't be long before Social Services are a thing of the past.

Osborne will see to that.

[w0bblyduck]

The husband is step father to the children the real father was banned from them by ss when the second child was born for being a drunk violent bully to the mother it is the paternal father's sister and cousin who are doing the accusing of the step father which as already been stated he hasn't been charged with

[EDDIE51]

^^ sorry but the lack of commas or full stops makes your post hard to understand. Should the end of the sentence be after the word 'bully'(line 2) or after the word 'mother' (line 3) it changes the entire meaning depending which it is supposed to be.
So far as I see it the paternal father is a violent bully and the step father is accused of 'wrongdoing'.
I am still confused as to why the mother and the step father ( her new partner?) would want the possesions of the 'violent bully father' to stay in the house or why the mother does not want to divorce him when she has a new partner. I say again the 'violent bully father' must have been VERY bad for SS to take such an aggresive stance against him. There still must be a lot more we are not being told!

[w0bblyduck]

sorry the paternal father was a drunken violent bully to the mother .They never married.The stepfather married the mother of the two children.The stepfather has been accused of sexually assaulting the father's sister and cousin.With this then becoming a police matter the ss also became involved.Because of the accusations the stepfather had to leave the marital home.Although there are no charges ss are insisting that all traces of the stepfather be removed from the home as they say it is traumatizing the children but all the children want is their stepfather to come back home as does the mother .The stepfather has brought the children up as his own from a very young age .It is ss that want the things out not the mother .Hope this now makes sense .

[EDDIE51]

What you say now gives a totally diffrent story. It looked as if it was the paternal father who SS wanted banned.
All I can say is that a man who has been accused of 2 counts of sexual assault with 2 diffrent people should not be near children. The SS obviously share that view. It often takes many months for charges to be made in cases like this, that is probably why he has not been charged yet. SS must think that there is a high chance he will be charged withh rape or a serious sexual offence for them to take take this action.
You would get a better responce if you reposted this with a title like ''Help Husband accused of sex assault'' .
This is not really about SS is it? That is just a part of the problem, your real problem is with your husband who has been accused of sexually assaulting2 women, that is what you need help with.
Please repost this with a new title as I suggested you will get more help that way.

[bednobs]

im not entirely sure what the legalities of what ss can or can't do. However, if the mum wants the family back together, the best way to do that is to comply with whatever they want

[EDDIE51]

^^ Exactly bednobs. w0bblyduck needs to comply with SS until this gets sorted out or she stands to have SS remove the children.
w0bblyduck ,SS can remove the children in cases like this , the overwhelming principle is 'the well being of the children' all other considerations
( you, your partner, the family, the father) are secondary to that !!