abbusive ex

[pheniox]

my ex wos abbusive while we were going out which is y i broke it off however since the split she has become extremely harrasing this ranges from abbusive txt msgs occasinally threating violence to coming to my home at ridiculous hours and shouting at me for about an hour until she get bored and leaves im only 18 and the stress is really starting to affect me are there any injunctions or leagl barriers i can put up to get her to leave me alone we never lived together no were we engaged or anyhtign like that, the only thing i worry about id that being as im the guy of the relationship and it is a girl giving the abuse i wonder weather any court wud indeed side with me ( excuse the appauling grammar and spelling txt language appears to of taken me over)

[JRB]

Report this to the police. In today's climate I don't think you need to worry about the gender problem. I am sure that the police are pretty familiar with girls (women) who are the agressor in this type of situation. Hopefully a visit from the Bill will put an end to this without you ever having to go to court.

[HJT40]

take photocopies of the text messages and do not delete them from your phone. Either take them to the police station or wait until she turns up at the house again and call the police. It doesn't matter about you being the guy in the relationship. You could go to a solicitors to get an injunction, but maybe the police turning up will scare her enough to leave you alone. You could also get in touch with your phone provider once you have a crime reference number and get your phone number changed. Hope this is of help.

[PinkFizz]

Yes the police will take this seriously,don't worry.Keep all the texts that you can and write down times and dates that she does all of this.Do it today and let us know how you get on - good luck.x

[Donna69]

Hi there
I dont think you say if you still live with your parents or not???

[pheniox]

Thnx i have printed off all my txt msgs and sent them to the police and they did pay her a vist at which point she recieved a court date for assault of a police officer, with the txt msgs as eveidence and the assault of a police officer do you think i would be able to get an injunction against her

[HJT40]

Yay! glad to hear it, us in a blue uniform don't always give bad advice! However, yep you could get an injunction, but has she continued to do it? I hope this will be the end of it as far as unwanted visits are concerned and you know you can call us out if she comes back, just keep the crime reference handy. An injunction will cost a lot of money even if you can get one!

[pheniox]

ok she backed off for awhile but now she seems to be more determined than ever they phone calls have doubled and she is turning up at my work now i have told the police they have had words again with her but im nor sure if thats going to help im reaching the end of my rope and im starting to wonder if im ever going to be free of her