Why not ask your lender? Its not a war! They lend money to you with the house as security and they are entitled to get it back because the money belongs to their investors. If you don't get in touch and tell them the story, they will definately go for repossession as a last resort if there is no other way. To sit around and wait for it to happen will ruin any credit rating you may have. They will have answers to all your questions and are not out to get you, the house or anyone else. They want to do things as cheaply as possible so, retain control of the situation as already suggested.