Parental responsibilty

[Goodsoulette]

My partner and I broke up 6 months ago , We havent been to court over the children because he has managed to bully me away from that. He turned up at the nursery yesterday and refused to let me pick my little boy up, insisted that he would do it and got very angry when they questioned who he was, as he would not let me go in. This has made me panic a lot about what he could do as he is still very good at bullying and dominating me. The school had got me in touch with a family advisor who took the details and is going to call me about my options. So in the meantime If my ex-partner managed to get hold of our son (he does have parental responsibility for him) and refused to give him back to me, what could I do? and is he within his rights to say im not giving him back to you he is mine ( as he has threatened this on a couple of occasions)

[efc]

My advice would be to seek legal advice and gain a residency order as soon as possible. Work out access rights with the help of the courts. If everything is worked out legally then it makes it easier all round. You will know when your ex is having the children and the children will also know when to expect him.
It doesn't have to be a bad experience going through the legal channels if you can both agree on access.
Obviously the children need to come first and it won't help them if they don't know which parent they should be with etc.
I went through a similar situation a few years ago so have an idea of how you are feeling. Residency and access was eventually sorted out through the courts and everything is now working well!
Good Luck

[PinkFizz]

God hun, what a nightmare. Were you and your ex partner ever married and did you both every sign a Parental Responsibility Agreement? xx

[Goodsoulette]

nope never married, but he gets it because my son was born after a certain year.

[Aprilis]

Goodsoulette, I didn't know that parental responsibility for fathers came automatically after a certain year. What year was that? I don't think it applies in my case as our daughter is now 9, but I am curious.

[Goodsoulette]

no it doesnt apply to you, it was after my eldest but before the youngest. Maybe 2002. I understand the whole fathers justice thing but I am pretty sure it means that my crazy ex could just run off with the youngest if he wanted to.

[please]

hi there i really simplfiy with u was he ever violent to you? and was he violent in front of your children i do hope not as this can have a grate affect on them. if i was u i would tell him that you would like him to stay away for the time being as you need to get legal advice, i think u should take tis to court becouse it is in te best intrest of the children and he should under stand this if he loves them. i think i am going thougth a simeler thing orthogth i was not married to my ex but i was with him for 8 years , there was alot of violance that i could not tell this to the police as he would kill me he is a very dangeras man . he got me on drugs when i young and then when he came out of prison for dealing heroin i 15 years old and i had a bed site that socail sev got me so he moved in and then gave me my first injection of heroin which carred on tell i lernd to do it my self so he had control of me,when i was 21 had a loevly baby which made me wont to change , but things got wores the mentill and fisacal abuse aswell as the drug abuse he bet me meny times infront of my baby, so i left i met someone ells i got saved and became a christian and have a stabble home with 4 children of which we do not whont to be upset as this man this man is dangeras since the court proceedings he has been in 3 times one of the things was a stabbing. the court will make the best dessestion they think is right and i think becasue of the way your ex has been behaving in front of the childern he may well lose his parentel rights, but u do need to get to a soliceter to make a applacation to the court and serve a order on him to stay away for now tell court has sorted this out it is not fere on your childern and he seems very unpodicktable. i am sorry i whent on about my case but some times it helps to talk so fealy free to talk to me if you like .u do need his parental resonsablity take away, i think uare in a good pro protect your family. i whish u all best may god blees you.