is the father entitled to my child

[jelisa]

my husband has walked out on me 3 weeks ago - he has left a 3 month baby - but he is threatening to take my baby away from me - is this possible - can he do this - he has left a 3 bedroom family house - and is now living in a rented box room - what are my rights - i havent a clue - please anyone out there can you advise me!!! i work fulltime from home - so i can support my baby - not to mention the fact that my husband has just got his british citizenship 5 weeks ago - dont say alot does it - but please help me on this one - im at my wits end ......thanks

[B00]

Please go to see a solicitor ASAP or the CAB

Really hope they can help you sort something out- good luck.

[jelisa]

I HAVE BEEN TO CAB - they wont help me - as they state that he is already asking advice from them - so it conflicts - i sat waitng with cab for three hours - dont help me at all - now he is offering me 20 pound per week - is that alright or not - i dont know???

[Louisa 69]

The citizens advise also have a web site so you could try contacting them for advice that way.
I would also recommend that you see a solicitor, it sounds like your going to need one. Good luck.

[Ethel]

Unless you are a negligent or unfit mother for any reason then the child will not be taken from you.

You need a solicitor to help you stop him taking the baby out of the country; to sort out maintenance; to get the divorce.

Good luck.

[bednobs]

the baby is Both of yours, not just yours. If you think you are entitled to have custody, why shouldnt he think the same?

[scoobydooby]

Bednobs must be a bloke!

[xanderma]

Please talk to a solicitor - it sounds to me like he'll try to take your child out of the country. I'd look at getting a passport for the child yourself, (so that he can't get one at a later date), and keep it under lock and key.

Also, I think �20 pw sounds rather pathetic - it costs more than that to feed and clothe a baby, even if you're working I think his contribution should be more.

That's just my opinion, I'm no expert but I wish you well x x

[bednobs]

I'm not a bloke, im a woman - cant see what difference it makes really. It really upsets me when people talk about children like they are possessions "is he entitled to MY baby" Makes me feel like saying "yes he can half, which half do you want?"
No matter what has happened in the relationship between the two of you, you chose him to be the father, and he is the father, therefore he has every right to have access to the child.
Why do people assume the father wants to take the baby out of the country?

[jelisa]

hello - this is for bednobs - i suggest that you stick to that name - bit of ***** arent you - tell me about how i should not treat my little baby as a possesion - well im sorry i do!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
shows that you dont give a **** about a child - that you may not or may have but if you did =- then nothing in the world would take that away from you - simple advice from a simple person - must be sad to be soooooooo - well you infact!!!!!!!!!!!!

[scoobydooby]

I think it's quite fair to say that for most parents, the greatest bond is between the mother and the baby at 3 months. Nothing to do with who's at home the most but simply because of the bond that has been shared between mother and baby throughout the pregnancy. There are exceptions but no person in their right mind would allow a father to take a 3 month old baby away from it's mother if it's being well looked after. Have you ever had a baby bednobs?