When I was a kid, my paternal grand parents were VERY wealthy (I'm talking several houses, land, vineyards...etc), and my dad used to put money in a savings account for my brother and me. When my mum left my father I was 8. She moved to another part of the country, and as she had been a housewife all these years since getting married, she couldn't find a job and she struggled to bring me up, with no help from my dad whatsoever. She took the money from my savings account, and I only found out when I remembered about it several years later. So what? The money was used to bring me up, not for her benefit! It's not like she used it to fund luxurious habits or a drug addiction, is it?? I'm glad she used that money and I wouldn't think of giving her grief about it today! I don';t know what your particular circumstances are, but it sounds like you have issues with your mum that have little to do with money to begin with, and maybe you should concentrate on solving these first. Bitterness and resentment will do you no good.