Moving out at 16

[ReneeB]

I'm Renee, I live in Manitoba. The laws are different for each province so I was just wondering, is it legal to move out at 16? WITHOUT parents permission. My birthday is right around the corner and I will be turning 16 soon. I so badly want to move out of my house as soon as I turn 16. Things aren't going so well at my house. They haven't been for over three years now. I'm very unhappy here. It's not because i don't get what I want or get to do whatever I want. It's because I'm never allowed to go see my friends or rarely get to hang out with them. I'm like a prisoner in my own home. I currently have a job and I am working most of my time. I work 5 or 6 days a week, my cheques are usually around 5 or 6 hundred. So that's pretty good for someone my age. I am still in school and still doing pretty good. But things at home aren't going so well. Me and my mom are constantly arguing, sometimes about nothing. We say stuff to each that we don't mean, it hurts but what was said was said. I tried talking to my mom about this and telling her that I don't wanna argue anymore but it's like a routine that has grown over the past three years. I'm standing on a line between giving up and seeing how much more I can take. My boyfriends mother said I shouldn't have to go through what my mom puts me through and also that I could move in with her when I am 16. I am really thinking about it because I am very unhappy at home. I know things won't be easy when I leave because I will have to support myself financally but I know not to spend my money on stupid things. I need some advice on what to do!

x. Thanks for listening.

[pinktwink]

sorry to hear things re tough at home. moving in with your boyfriends mummy seem good but if things don't work out it may be tough. @Have you and your mum thought of getting some relationship help so yee can get on better. It may also be worth talking to your local social services/social work department about what kind of support you can get if you feel things are too tough at home good luck and keep the faith

[Eve]

I can't say about the law as this is mainly a UK site but I hope that everything works out OK for you.

How are you at saving? Can you try and put as much money by as possible so you have a safety net as well as some money to start you off.

Can you sit down with your boyfriend's mom and see if she can help you go through a budget with you (it's hard to know what you will and won't need til you're out there in the real world) so you have an idea about how much money you can allow for what.

Always have a back up plan, as you're so young, if there someone you could go to should things not work out with your boyfriend's family?

Keep in mind whether you could afford to live if you had to support yourself, accomodation etc... especially if you want to carry on your education.

Could you try things out on a temporary basis, stay with your boyfriend's family for a while while you try and work things through with your mom and see if you can make the relationship better?

It sounds like you do talk but that you just end up arguing and saying hurtful things. Could you both agree to try not to get into an argument and maybe walk away and calm down then come back and talk about things?